Woman Wants To Know If She's Wrong For Treating Her Husband's Family With Disdain After They Overstay Their Welcome
Marriage isn't only about marrying your partner. You have to marry the family as well.
While the partner's family is a blessing for some people, others think they're nightmare incarnate. This is especially true when the mother-in-law is a toxic, meddlesome, and overbearing one.
It doesn't help that the brothers and sisters-in-law are passive. For someone marrying into that kind of family, it can be challenging.
You can pick your friends, and decide to cut ties with the ones you don't share the same values, goals, and interests. But you can't do that with your partner's family.
We know how it can be emotionally exhausting to deal with all the unnecessary drama. But if it's dealt with negativity, it can cause a rift between a married couple.
It's even common for one to choose sides. And this is what people want to avoid the most when it comes to a partner's family.
And there will even be times when the best efforts go in vain. You have communicated everything properly and set boundaries to make the relationship work.
But your mother-in-law just won't listen. So what's the best thing to do in the situation?
A redditor ultimately decided to just shut down and give up connecting with her mother-in-law. Is she in the wrong for doing so?
Who did redditors side with? Let's find out!
A woman asks the community if she's wrong for treating her husband's family the way she did.
The family doesn't like the woman.
The nerve of this family.
The mother-in-law, together with her whole family, arbitrarily decide she'll spend the holidays with the original poster and her husband. And the worst thing is that they'll stay for a month and a half
How selfish!
The family dynamic
What the monster-in-law does
The son's disappointment
An apology without a sorry?
This is probably the best thing to do with a MIL who refuses to listen.
The rest of the family should do their share of the work.
The mother-in-law IS horrible.
Poor woman.
You can hardly call it "cultural thing."
The husband can't stand firm when it comes to his family.
This would be a nice idea, but the whole house would be a mess given that the brothers are lazy to clean up.
Others believe that the problem stems from the husband not being able to take control of the situation.
This user also agrees.
Since the husband can't take the situation under control, the woman had to suffer.
Not the best, but is probably worth it for her anxiety attacks.
A family of leeches, according to this redditor.
People are hating on the husband's inaction.
The husband is also trying his best, but isn't in a state where he can handle the situation.
This may be the fastest solution...
...but not the best because of the mother's manipulative nature.
That's why the original poster doesn't agree to throw her out.
Inviting themselves in is a very disrespectful act. They should be ashamed.
As mentioned by the original poster, he's still in the process of doing this.
A Christopher Columbus-y family
The husband has to do it, the woman is too tired.
For this redditor, what the MIL thinks doesn't matter. That's why it's okay to kick her out.
This redditor really is in a tough spot.
Dealing with a difficult MIL is among the most common relationship challenges. While some people think that their in-laws are worth investing their time in, others completely want them out of their lives.
She has to count the days before this whole ordeal is over. Let's hope that her husband gets the courage to make the situation at least a tad better for his wife.
