30-Year-Old Retaliates Against Her 60-Year-Old Single Aunt Who Asked Her If She Was Dating Yet

Christmas won't be complete without someone in your family asking if you're still single

Show of hands: who here has attended a family reunion or even a get-together? Most of us right?

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If so, you know how those things go. You meet relatives you've never seen before and you get introduced to a lot of people who have tons of stories about your parents they can't talk to you about.

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Although the food is good, there's a catch. There's always one and this time, it's relatives asking if you're in a relationship and if you answer no, they ask you why.

They ask why you're not dating and tell you that you better start looking because you're not any younger. Questions like these get old real fast and most of the time you can awkwardly wriggle your way out of them.

From time to time when they catch you in a bad mood, it's easy to snap. Such is the case with one Reddit poster.

OP (original poster) broke up 7 months ago with her partner of 3 years. Admittedly, she's having a difficult time with her first Christmas without her SO.

She and her mom went to visit her 60-year-old aunt for Christmas. The first thing her aunt asked is: "Well, any new man yet?"

OP snapped and said, "Well, how about you? How come you aren't married yet?" The aunt was taken aback and stayed quiet for a long time while the rest of the family carried on with their conversations.

On the way home, OP's mom told her she was rude for answering that way because her aunt was just taking an interest in her and making conversation

On the way home, OP's mom told her she was rude for answering that way because her aunt was just taking an interest in her and making conversationTheYoungWan
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Read OP's entire original post below:

Read OP's entire original post below:TheYoungWan
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TheYoungWan
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This redditor believes OP is the A**hole as she could have politely told her no or whatever answer she was comfortable with

This redditor believes OP is the A**hole as she could have politely told her no or whatever answer she was comfortable withpoeadam
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In reply to the comment above, someone pointed out that the aunt's question was not only rude, it was also sexist

In reply to the comment above, someone pointed out that the aunt's question was not only rude, it was also sexistzealous-grasschoice
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Others were quick to point out that OP wasn't asked why she didn't have a new man; she was asked IF she had a new man.

Others were quick to point out that OP wasn't asked why she didn't have a new man; she was asked IF she had a new man.gothiccmuse
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The commenter doth project too much methinks?

The commenter doth project too much methinks?zealous-grasschoice
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The aunt was just curious about OP

The aunt was just curious about OPgothiccmuse
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It could have been phrased better for sure

It could have been phrased better for sureJessiFay
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But just because she asked, it doesn't mean she was being rude

But just because she asked, it doesn't mean she was being rudegothiccmuse
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It may be a sore spot for OP but it certainly wasn't unreasonable to ask her if she was back to dating 7 months post-break up

It may be a sore spot for OP but it certainly wasn't unreasonable to ask her if she was back to dating 7 months post-break upIAMA_LongHorse
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OP's rude "clapback" was uncalled for

OP's rude yogfthagen

It was 7 months ago not 7 hours

It was 7 months ago not 7 hoursLate_Engineering9973

This person who related too much

This person who related too muchemmakobs

People of the internet being sensitive? No way.

People of the internet being sensitive? No way.firstladymsbooger

And apparently, the question wasn't too soon seeing that OP is currently dating someone according to some internet sleuths

And apparently, the question wasn't too soon seeing that OP is currently dating someone according to some internet sleuthsSunnysmama

It is very irritating and the emotion behind OP's *rude* response is totally understandable. Although, she did pick on her aunt like a low hanging fruit.

It is very irritating and the emotion behind OP's *rude* response is totally understandable. Although, she did pick on her aunt like a low hanging fruit.kindcrow

Yep, the aunt could have at least said Merry Christmas

Yep, the aunt could have at least said Merry ChristmasJatulintarha

OP seemed to be determined to hurt the Aunt with that specific response

OP seemed to be determined to hurt the Aunt with that specific responsekindcrow

Plot twist: the aunt is not actually single and OP forgot to mention it in her original post

Plot twist: the aunt is not actually single and OP forgot to mention it in her original postTheYoungWan

Reddit was confused and so are we

Reddit was confused and so are weRhubarbSkein

Because it's a long-distance relationship it doesn't count?

Because it's a long-distance relationship it doesn't count?TheYoungWan

Come on, OP. We were mostly on your side.

Come on, OP. We were mostly on your side.RhubarbSkein

Short but sweet

Short but sweetYourMoonWife

OP only shared the facts that made her look like the victim

OP only shared the facts that made her look like the victimCradleofDisturbed

To be honest, we can't really be sure about the intention behind the aunt's question but it certainly didn't warrant a rude response

To be honest, we can't really be sure about the intention behind the aunt's question but it certainly didn't warrant a rude responseFoolMe1nceShameOnU

There may be a generational misunderstanding thing happening there

There may be a generational misunderstanding thing happening thereFluffy-Release6637

Yes the question is intrusive and yes OP is rude. Both bad things can be true and maybe the right answer is: everyone sucks here.

Yes the question is intrusive and yes OP is rude. Both bad things can be true and maybe the right answer is: everyone sucks here.Peony42

This is a comment worth reading:

This is a comment worth reading:FoolMe1nceShameOnU

Judging by the aunts silence after OP's response, she was definitely humiliated

Judging by the aunts silence after OP's response, she was definitely humiliatedFoolMe1nceShameOnU

For that reason alone, OP is the a**hole

For that reason alone, OP is the a**holeFoolMe1nceShameOnU

After much deliberation and possibly reading all those comments, OP waved the white flag and admitted that she might have been in the wrong here.

After much deliberation and possibly reading all those comments, OP waved the white flag and admitted that she might have been in the wrong here.Judgement_Bot_AITA

What's a family reunion without a little bit of drama? OP's Christmas certainly wasn't boring and for sure, the aunt won't soon forget this one.

OP learned her lesson not to be cruel to someone who annoyed her and the aunt also potentially learned not to ask intrusive questions or not to direct them towards OP.

How's that for a serving of mild drama? How many aunts and uncles asked you if you were still single this year and did you respond the way OP did?

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