Woman Vents To Redditors Over Homophobic Remarks Made by Her Family At Christmas

Back in the 90s', there were no conversations about homosexuality. People didn't know what it meant or how to understand people who identified as homosexual. They did not feel the need to talk about something they did not understand and felt would be better left untouched.

At that time, being homosexual was taboo, even among family members, but nowadays, it's not the same; society has evolved to be more accepting of homosexuals. However, even though it is becoming more widely accepted, people still feel uncomfortable with or do not understand homosexuality.

This can make the coming out process difficult for individuals who identify as homosexual and family members when they have to accept a loved one's sexuality. Since some people come out as homosexual at a very early stage of life, like in middle school or high school, it has been made apparent that family members struggle with accepting their sexuality.

One of the biggest challenges is informing the family about referring to them and other homosexuals. The process can be even more complicated when you have traditional and conservative parents who do not understand homosexuality and feel it is a disease or mental illness, which is something to be ashamed of.

They do not know how to talk about it, especially since most of the parents of the kids of this generation were raised with the belief that homosexuality was a sin. For family members to become more educated and provide their children with helpful advice and support when coming out, they will first need to understand that homosexuality is normal.

Leaving from a place where we do not feel valued is completely fine, be it at a friend or family member's place.

lovemycar66

It is really sad that even today some people have to think twice before speaking their heart out in front of their family.

lovemycar66

Sometimes it is better to let go of the family if they don’t accept who you are.

lovemycar66

You don't have to deal with anyone who doesn't make you feel comfortable despite the circumstances.

lovemycar66

It is all because of the homophobic people that the homosexuals are struggling to get their identity approved.

lovemycar66

I'm surprised how this girl had to hide about her sexuality and her girlfriend just to be accepted for a family dinner.

lovemycar66

The people during grandma's time were the ones who began the fight for the equal rights of the LGBTQ+ community.

lovemycar66

Big hugs for standing up for who you are and for your partner, more power to this girl!

lovemycar66

No explanation is needed for leaving from a place that is not making you feel comfortable and passes sexist and racist remarks.

lovemycar66

Family members are the first people who should respect the homosexual person in their family.

lovemycar66

This revolution started way back in the late 60s' and the fight has only become difficult ever since.

lovemycar66

It is sad to see that something that should be naturally accepted by all has to be fought for.

lovemycar66

Being from a different time is no excuse for passing racist and sexist comments to one's own family member.

lovemycar66

With age people should become more accepting and open minded, and not the other way around.

lovemycar66

Gay couples or homosexual people have always existed, it is now that they have started standing up for themselves publicly.

lovemycar66

The uncle made the homophobic remarks but the grandmother is the reason they cant come out even to her own family.

lovemycar66

When there is love among the family members there is no need to be ashamed of coming out to them.

lovemycar66

Leaving without actually offending anyone was a better option than staying there and making them realize how homophobic they are.

lovemycar66

And it all starts with saying little things indirectly to the family to change their minds about being homosexual.

lovemycar66

You are fully responsible for your own happiness, either go all out and be happy or just play pretend your whole life.

lovemycar66

That was truly toxic, Its really brave of you to come out publicly and let whoever think whatever they want.

lovemycar66

Good for you to come out early, now you have a longer time to enjoy yourself freely with your partner.

lovemycar66

The generation gap is real, but it cannot be an excuse to disrespect other people's opinions. It is okay for elders not to accept our choice of a same-sex partner, but it is not okay to object to it.

Share this story with your friends and family and help them come out publically and to their families. Give them all the love and support they need to become confident of their identity.