Woman Considers Cutting Off Her Dad Over A Joke He Made During A Family Christmas Party
Fathers and daughters have a special bond that many people don't understand. The relationship between a girl and her father can significantly impact the child's psychological growth.
When fathers are actively involved in their daughters' lives, they instill in them a healthy sense of who they are. In addition, it makes them more confident, self-assured, and they have a better idea of what they want out of life.
Unless a person is lucky enough to have a wonderful dad that respects them, they tend to hold onto the memories of their father with a heavy heart. One Redditor, u/azacealla, has come online to voice her frustrations about the verbal abuse that she has been suffering under her dad for so many years.
What makes this story unique is that her father targets her through 'jokes' about her appearance, or he makes nasty comments that hit her where it hurts the most. In her words;
"It feels like I can't be near him without him having to make some kind of dig at my appearance or making some kind of nasty joke at my expense. Everything I do is always wrong or not enough, and the 'jokes' that he makes are just terrible."
One particular joke seems to have broken the camel's back, as the Redditor is now ready to cut her father off for good. However, as a man she has known as family all her life, this is certainly not an easy decision.
According to her, "I think I have reached my breaking point of what I will and will not tolerate from my dad, but he is still my dad and it feels a bit extreme to cut him off over a joke."
This has led her to seek advice on social media, and you best believe that she is getting some real attention.
"Would I be in the wrong for cutting off my dad?"
The young lady explained how she has tried to discuss her frustrations with her dad, but is keeps falling on deaf ears
The joke that broke the camel's back
Her dad decided to make an awful joke about her appearance at their family Christmas party
Regardless of the numerous awful things her dad has said to her over the years, this particular one hurt the most
The Redditor explained that she had reached her breaking point. Now she wants to know if it's a good idea to cut her dad off for the sake of her sanity
The post gathered attention from a lot of users. Here's how the Reddit community reacted to the story.
"For your mental and emotional health, it's totally fine to cut him off"
"Would you keep a friend who treated you like this? Why put up with it from a relative?"
"It's okay to both love your dad (because he's your dad, right?) and also decide to not have a relationship with him"
"If all he does is insult you, then yeah. I'd be behind cutting him off and you're NTA"
"Cut him off and go live the happy life you and your lovely boyfriend deserve"
Only a bad father will consistently put his daughter through such pain
"You need to do what you can to protect yourself and your mental health"
Her boyfriend deserves an applause for sticking up for her
"You're an adult and now it's your job to decide if it's worth it to keep someone in your life"
Another user decided to share own sad experience with her dad
"One of the best things about becoming an adult is no longer HAVING to have people in your life who do not add positive things"
"Parents are supposed to be our biggest supporters, who help build us up. All he’s done is tear you down"
"There is nothing wrong with cutting toxic people out of your life"
"You would not be cutting him off because of a joke, you would be taking a stand against years of emotional abuse"
As one user said, "Parents are supposed to be our biggest supporters, who help build us up." But in this case, the Redditor has been torn down countless times, and it doesn't look like her dad is willing to turn a new leaf.
No one likes to see a family split; however, when you are not valued, it doesn't hurt to step back and reevaluate your relationship with that individual. Hopefully, her dad realizes that his actions are a poor reflection of what a parent should be to their child.
How do you think the young lady should best handle this situation? Join the conversation in the comments below.
