Weary Sister Asks Redditor For Advice And Gets Upset With The Answer, Redditor Questions If She Should Have Lied To Her

"She got mad and left, she hasn’t spoken to me since which is unusual."

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• November 25, 2023

Dividing household chores in a partnership encourages a sense of fairness and mutual respect. When chores are equally shared, it helps prevent resentment and burnout, which can happen if one partner shoulders a greater burden.

According to a Reddit user, that also happened to her sister, but sometimes the truth can be painful, so a Reddit user asked online if she was in the wrong for telling her point of view. The OP has an older sister, Jane, who has been married to her husband, John, for nine years.

They started dating when Jane was 17. The OP has been in a relationship with her girlfriend, Sam, for four years, and they have lived together for three years.

The OP and her sister share a close bond and often discuss their relationship issues. However, the OP admits she dislikes John.

During a recent lunch at the OP's house, Jane confessed to the OP about her exhaustion. Jane works full-time and is the primary earner because John works part-time and plays soccer on weekends.

Jane is also undergoing pre-treatment for IVF. She said she felt like she was always cleaning and cooking at home.

Jane wondered why the OP never complained about household chores, and the OP told her they equally shared everything. They plan their weekly chores together, each taking on tasks they prefer and sharing the rest equally.

Jane outlined their household chore distribution, revealing that John performs a few tasks, but she handles the majority of the work. The OP pointed out that her exhaustion might originate from the burden of planning everything in addition to her own tasks.

The OP said even if John physically contributes to chores, the general division of labor is highly unequal. It upset Jane, and she hasn't spoken to the OP since.

Worried, the OP confided in their mother, who accused her of overstepping due to her dislike of John.

The OP asks:

The OP said she and her sister are very close:

The OP's sister told her she's been feeling worn out lately:

She asked the OP why she never complains about chores, and the OP explained Sam and she equally share it:

The OP's sister described their routine, and the OP told her that her husband doesn't do enough:

That conversation upset the OP's sister, and the OP hasn't heard from her since:

A Redditor told the OP that she was not in the wrong

The OP explained:

The OP is just a caring sister

The OP is 100% correct

Jane wasn't prepared to hear the truth

Their partnership dynamic is not great

"I'm a firm believer if you don't want advice, don't ask for an opinion."

Redditors told the OP that she was not in the wrong for telling her sister the truth. She clearly didn't want to hurt her but help her.

However, her sister wasn't prepared to hear the truth. Besides, the sister asked the OP herself, and the OP did not impose her unsolicited opinion.

Filip