Mother Backs Son's Decision To Divorce Wife Over Weight And Hygiene Issues, Niece Argues The Reasons Are Superficial

"My son has tried to get her help, she won't go to doctors or therapy"

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• Published in Interesting
• August 26, 2023

Everyone desires to find someone with whom they would live happily ever after. But even a soulmate can become a real nightmare with time and aging.

When partners' life goals simply become different, and their lives become filled with more sadness than happiness, divorce is the best solution. It does sound harsh, but sometimes it's better to take that step than to live constantly depressed.

A Reddit user recently shared the story of her son's divorce and wanted to know if she was making a mistake by supporting him. She explained that he's 25 years old, a former active-duty soldier, and a current reservist.

He got married at 19 with his high school girlfriend. They live nearby and have two children, aged 7 and 5.

But, over time, his wife gained a lot of weight. She is currently weighing over 300 pounds at 5'4" and struggles with personal hygiene.

Her son had tried to help her seek medical or therapeutic help, but she always refused. Thus, he decided to separate and take their children with him due to her inability to care for them adequately.

He and their kids now live with the OP. A complication occurs when the OP's niece, a long-time friend of the son's wife, criticizes his actions, claiming he left because of the wife's weight.

But the OP supports her son's decisions. She explained that his reasons for divorce are also related to his wife's negligence towards household duties and childcare.

The OP's husband agrees with her but wants the conflict with their niece to end. So the OP questions if she's in the wrong for supporting his son's decision to get a divorce.

The OP asks:

She explained her son got married young and has two kids:

The OP supports him for wanting to divorce, but her niece, on the other hand, condemns him:

So, the OP wants to know if she's wrong for supporting her son:

If he is unhappy, he has the right to get a divorce

This might be her wake-up call to decide to get help

She is probably depressed

Depression is hell

She refuses to change and get help

Those are not superficial reasons

"Besides that though, maybe stay out of it."

Even if her weight is the only reason to get a divorce, he still has the right

The ideal marriage is one in which the couple grows and evolves together, providing happiness for both parties. However, when life's paths split and joy becomes overshadowed by constant sadness, the healthiest choice for both partners might be divorce.

Concerning this story, Redditors agreed with the OP that she has the right to support her son in his decisions, regardless of the reasons. They understand how his life turned blue, and he's choosing to divorce because he was way too unhappy.

The OP's niece's accusations are also understandable, considering her friendship with his wife, but her son's decision to divorce is not superficial at all.

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