Redditor's Parents Demand He Avoids 'Lower Class' Friends, He Accuses Them Of Emotional Neglect And Snobbery

"They have given me everything I could ask for, but they’re not exactly there for me emotionally."

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• September 16, 2023

True friendship doesn't recognize the boundaries of wealth and socioeconomic status. Friendship is about mutual respect, understanding, and genuine care; these are the only boundaries it values ​​and acknowledges.

Money can't buy the depth and quality of a bond formed by shared experiences, trust, and love. After all, it's not about how much money you have but the warmth of the connection you share.

Recently, a Reddit user said he comes from a well-off background, with both parents being accomplished lawyers. But despite their material success, his parents are emotionally distant.

They recently relocated, and the OP was initially enrolled in a prestigious private school where he had a traumatic experience due to his appearance and sexuality. With great difficulty, he transitioned to a public school.

During his initial days there, he faced challenges until he met Garfield, who offered to be his lab partner. Through Garfield, he also became friends with Eduardo.

Both Garfield and Eduardo come from working-class families, and the OP finds warmth and emotional support in their company. He even started dating Garfield.

But when the OP revealed the backgrounds of his new friends to his mother, she disliked them and said that they were not the right company for him due to their socioeconomic status. Being frustrated, the OP confronted his mother about their lack of emotional support and called his parents an elitist.

This outburst caused his mother to start crying, but the OP had never before seen her crying. He's now conflicted about his actions and seeks opinions on whether he was in the wrong for expressing his feelings in such a manner.

Here is the OP's issue:

The OP explained he's well cared for but lacks emotional support:

They recently relocated, and the OP was enrolled in a private school, but it was a traumatic experience:

So, he managed to transfer to public school:

At first, it also was difficult, but then he met two friends:

Both his friends come from working-class families:

When his mother learned his friends were from the 'lower class', she said they weren't the appropriate company for him:

And the OP called his parents cold, unfeeling snobs:

Not being interested in kids' lives clearly has consequences

The OP replied

The OP is not in the wrong

"I get the feeling it's too late to salvage the parent/child relationship at this point"

Money can't raise their child instead of them

"Emotional involvement and basic body needs are completely irrelevant from each other."

The OP added his dad is mad at him

"Hopefully your parents can see that they need to be more involved in you emotionally."

The OP replied

Redditors supported the OP and told him that he was not in the wrong for expressing his feelings to his parents. He should have done it a long time ago.

Hopefully, his parents would comprehend the lack of their emotional support and try to be there for their son's needs.

Filip