Furious SAHM Criticizes Her Husband For Escaping Family Crisis By Working While He Struggles To Meet Their Financial Needs And Works Twice As Hard

An overworked father can't afford to stay home and care for his sick kids, gets criticized by his wife, SAHM, for escaping all responsibilities by going to work.

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• November 19, 2023

Many people think that SAHAM has the hardest job in the world, but this also implies that the other parent has to work twice as hard to meet their financial needs. So, every story has two sides, and below is one side from an overworked husband.

The OP explained he and his wife have been together since their senior year of high school, and they have six children aged between 7 and 15. He works long hours from Monday to Friday, while his wife is a stay-at-home mom.

Despite the challenges, he expresses gratitude for his family life. He dedicates his days off to his kids, allowing his wife time for herself and ensuring they have regular date nights.

His sister also assists them occasionally. They had faced a financial crisis earlier in the year, so the OP had to extend his working hours.

These hours are necessary for covering the expenses of their four children's extracurricular activities and other necessities. However, his wife has recently requested him to reduce his work hours, which has led to disagreements as he finds this currently unfeasible.

The situation became more stressful when their young twins got the flu, spreading it to the entire household and requiring the children to stay home from school. With one child having autism, the illness caused significant stress in the family.

The OP felt terrible about not being able to take time off work to help. But, his wife confronted him angrily for over an hour, insisting he reduces his work hours due to her high stress levels.

She felt he was escaping the household responsibilities by going to work. He tried to explain the financial necessity of his extended hours, but she continued to blame him for the situation.

Now, the OP wonders if he is in the wrong in this situation.

The OP's story:

The OP explained his wife is a SAHM:

But he always ensures she has time for herself:

They were in a financial crisis, so the OP extended his working hours:

His wife wanted him to cut back hours, but he explained it was impossible:

Recently, their kids got sick, and he couldn't afford to skip work:

He knew it would be a thought period, but he had to work:

But, his wife criticized him for escaping all the responsibilities by going to work:

The OP tried to explain to her, but to no avail:

A Redditor was curious:

The OP responded:

One Redditor suggested the OP's wife could also get a job

One Redditor advised him not to have any more children

Redditors said that six kids is too much for any parent

And many others agreed

They are doing everything they can to be good parents

They need to change something

Redditors were also curious why they were in a financial crisis

OP explained:

Redditor told the OP that he's going to ruin his health if he keeps it up

It's not escape, it's torture

Redditors almost unanimously agreed that having six kids with one income is extremely difficult for both of them. They also advised the OP to change something, or he would destroy his health by working so many hours.

As for the OP's current problem, Redditors agreed that he was not in the wrong.

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