When A Choosing Beggar Asked His Sister To Cater His Huge Wedding For Free, He Didnt Expect So Many Family Skeletons To Fly Out Of Closet

"Since he lost all of his inheritance, he is having everyone in the family cover certain expenses."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• January 27, 2023

Choosing beggars... No one likes them, but they don't care.

That sort of entitlement is beyond belief. Expecting something for free and having the audacity to be choosy?

Well, we have one of those stories today. OP's brother dropped a bomb on them on Christmas that he was finally marrying his long-time girlfriend.

Since he had lost all of his inheritance (mostly stocks they all received when they turned 18) on cryptocurrency, he was broke, so he was requesting that everyone in the family cover certain expenses. After pressure from OP's parents, they relented, and OP, who had worked for years in fancy restaurants, including as a sous for a James Beard award-winning chef, was assigned to cover the meal.

He called to tell OP what he wanted: 250 invites, all with a plus one allowed, cocktail hour with tray passed hors d'oeuvres, a beef dish, a poultry dish, a veg dish, and a dessert. To make matters worse, the kitchen rental at the venue was $1,000, which included the cleaning fee but not any cookware or utensils.

This would mean OP would have to pay for additional cooks, servers, bartenders, bussing staff, and the serving ware. OP was beyond livid, but after pressure from their parents, they called up their restaurant contacts to see if they would be willing to donate their time or the ingredients.

Read the full story below:

OP says:

OP's brother dropped a bomb on them on Christmas that he was finally marrying his long-time girlfriend.

Brother wanted free food for:

Main course:

And desert.... Well, OP was livid

OP's parents had a heart-to-heart with him, after discovering that he had been taking money from other relatives for a few years. They gave OP an option of not taking any money for the wedding, and they would pay for courses so he could learn how to be more responsible with his money, or they would put an undisclosed amount of money in an account and hire a wedding planner who could use the money from that account, but they would cut off all contact with OP.

Her parents have always babied her brother

Who is going to donate free time and food?

"You have to earn it before you can even think about donating it"

This Redditor has some bad experiences:

"The same people..."

OP shared an update:

There was a lot of crying on both sides:

Final update:

Brother called OP to make amends

There are a lot of hidden skeletons in the family

When expecting handouts, you should not be picky. While it may be tempting only to accept what you view as the best offers or materials, it is important to remember that any gift, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem, is still a valuable and appreciated gesture.

People who give out handouts do not do so to judge or discriminate but rather to show their appreciation and help those in need. Therefore, when expecting handouts, it is important to be grateful for whatever is offered and not be selective.

In addition, refusing a handout can be seen as a sign of ingratitude and can have a negative impact on the relationship between the giver and recipient. People who do not accept what they are given out of pride or selectivity can be seen as ungrateful and can hurt the feelings of the person who is offering the help.

Taking what is given is an important part of developing and maintaining relationships built on trust and respect.

Damjan