Newly-Engaged Woman Sparks Dispute In Her Relationship By Refusing To Rock $50k Engagement Ring To Work

Love or practicality?

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• July 19, 2024

Diamonds may be a girl’s best friend, but a $50k heirloom engagement ring from grandma? That’s in a league of its own. Here’s a little tale of love, sentimentality, and some unexpected drama over a ring. 

Our narrator (Original Poster) recently got engaged to her partner of over three years. This led to a kerfuffle over a piece of jewelry that's worth more than a year's salary for many. 

You see, OP’s engagement ring wasn’t just any ring—it was her late grandmother’s ring, appraised at a cool $40-50k. Talk about sentimental and valuable!

Now, here’s where the plot thickens. OP, being a practical soul, knew that flaunting such a valuable ring while working her job in the service industry wasn’t the wisest move. 

She planned to wear a silicone band to work to avoid any mishaps and save the precious ring for off-duty hours. Seems sensible, right? 

Her partner initially agreed to pay the $700 resizing fee but suddenly had a change of heart. His argument? "Why pay for resizing if the ring’s just going to sit in a box?"

OP had clearly communicated her plan to wiear the ring outside of work, so this sudden stinginess left her scratching her head. Was she really in the wrong for wanting to keep the ring safe and sound while she’s at work?

Let’s dig into the details

OP’s engagement ring belonged to her late grandmother. Surprisingly the ring cost a fortune and has no insurance.

OP took the ring to get resized and her partner agreed to bear the cost. However, he changed his mind stating OP would not wear it to work.

OP later had a discussion with her partner and they reached a compromise on splitting the resizing cost and when to wear the ring.

Check out some interesting comments below:

“This dude already didn't have to pay for an engagement ring, the least he can do is pay for that!”

“My gut impression is that this has nothing to do with whether you will wear the ring or not, but is more about being cheap.”

“Tell him that he can buy you a proper engagement ring, and you will wear your grandmother's ring on special occasions only.”

“Are your coworkers supposed to be impressed that your fiancé paid $700 to have the ring that you already owned resized? That’s nothing to be proud of.”

“The industry you work in is not a $40 -50K ring worthy. A silicone band is the perfect option.“

“If it means that much to him that you wear it, he should be getting you a ring that you are happy to wear day to day!“

“Get some documentation on how your ring is going to remain your asset in regardless of divorce, and in the case of your demise.”

“While I get his point of not wanting to pay the $700 yo get it resized, I feel like it’s out of becoming cheap/laziness/ possible other financial concerns.”

After some heated discussions and a fair bit of frustration, OP and her fiancé reached a compromise. He agreed to cover half the resizing cost and the cost of a cheaper ring for daily wear.

OP was grateful for the advice and perspectives shared, which helped her navigate the tricky situation. She’ll still be rocking that silicone band at work, but hey, at least grandma’s ring stays safe and cherished, just as it should be. Another union saved it all, thanks to the Reddit community!

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Jesse