Wife Takes Stand Against Husband's Messiness, Implements Cleaning Fee For Neglected Chores

"It’s just the cleaning part that is an issue in the marriage."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• March 5, 2024

In a lot of homes, figuring out who does what chores can cause arguments. This story is about a couple who are going through changes in their jobs, and it's affecting their daily life together.

OP and her husband have been together for over three years, with one year of marriage under their belt. OP's husband comes from a traditional background where his father worked, and his mother managed the household duties.

Despite her respect for their culture, OP found herself taking on the role of homemaker while her husband worked, and she also built her own business. When her husband lost his job, OP stepped up to cover the bills while also managing the household and her growing business.

However, despite her efforts, her husband's habit of leaving messes behind continued, leading to tension in their relationship. Feeling frustrated, OP decided to implement a $10 charge for each mess she had to clean up after him.

Despite initially agreeing to the arrangement, her husband reacted negatively when he realized OP was serious about enforcing the fee, leading to a heated argument. Despite this disagreement, OP acknowledges that her husband is otherwise supportive and caring.

OP is questioning whether she should return the money and continue cleaning up after her husband herself.

OP has been married for 1 year, and her husband comes from a traditional family where his dad worked and mom managed everything and they're content with this lifestyle, which OP respect.

During a break from employment, OP managed household tasks full-time while also developing her own business.

Four months ago, OP's husband lost his job, leaving her to handle bills while her business thrived, but despite her efforts, he neglected household chores, ignoring her requests to clean up after himself.

His father criticized his son for not working and relying on OP to cover expenses.

OP got tired of cleaning up after her husband and started charging him $10 for each mess, without complaining, and he agreed.

He didn't take OP seriously and called her names, leading to a heated argument, but eventually, he gave her the money.

The couple gets along great, but cleaning is a problem.

OP wonders if she was wrong to charge him for the cleaning.

OP's husband needs to step up and contribute.

He should take responsibility if he's not working.

OP's actions were justified.

Keeping the money is vital for her husband's learning process.

In a relationship, both partners should adapt when circumstances change.

He expected OP to clean up after him despite her job.

He's a homemaker now, he should handling chores and job hunting in his free time.

OP's husband needs to step up and help out around the house, especially if he's not working right now. It's only fair since OP is juggling a job and managing the household.

OP was right to charge him for leaving messes around because he needs to realize the impact of his actions. Keeping the money is a good reminder for him to do better.

In a good relationship, both partners need to pitch in when things change. It's not fair for OP's husband to expect her to do everything while he's not pulling his weight.

Since he's not working, he should focus on doing chores and looking for a new job in his free time.

Damjan