Woman Gets Defensive After Being Told By Her Son That She Is Not Allowed To Wear A White Outfit On His Wedding Day

"It is very much an unspoken rule that only the bride wears all white"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• June 27, 2023

You know that moment when you fall head over heels for a stunning ivory or cream dress that would be perfect for an upcoming wedding that you want to attend? Even the greatest of us experience it, but is the color too close to the bride's gown?

What would the bride think of it? What about the other wedding attendees?

Others may tell you to "go for it," while others may quickly dismiss the idea. Choosing a suitable outfit for a wedding event can be challenging since you must first adhere to the dress code and select a look that is appropriate for the level of formality of the event. 

The OP is getting married soon, and his father made it clear from the outset that money would not be used as a bargaining chip when it came to what their wedding would look like. He also said he would help if the OP's mother became too bossy or controlling during the planning process.

However, OP's mom spilled that she found a lovely ivory dress to wear at the wedding. OP's fiance was mortified, and he took the lead and repeatedly said in as gentle a way as possible that no one but his fiancée would be wearing white on the wedding day.

He also called to tell his mom that he was serious about what he said, which made her lose it. Keep scrolling down to read the entire story. 

The headline

In a few instances, they've been pushed into doing things they did not want or envision for themselves

In a gentle way, the OP said that no one but his fiancée would be wearing white on the wedding day

OP's mom is now furious with him for telling her what she can and cannot wear

We've gathered up a bunch of the most upvoted comments from Redditors for you to enjoy below

It appears OP's mom is trying to steal the spotlight

Everyone else at the wedding will indeed know that you should never wear white to a wedding

They are gossiped about in a bad light

From a redditor:

NTA - everyone knows not to wear white at a wedding because that the bride’s color. Even in cultures where the traditional color is not white, YOU DON’T WEAR THE BRIDE’S COLOR!!!!

Your mother is trying to pull something here. What it is, I don’t know, but since it’s not her wedding, she should be respectful and wear whatever you and your fiancée choose for her. My mom wore what my brother picked at his wedding. No problems there. (Although, I was called in to pull her back from interfering in other ways.)

This is a power play on the OP's mom's side

Not wearing white to a wedding is common knowledge

This Redditor believes the OP handled the matter well

This is about the OP and no one else

It will cause stress and gossip

Many redditors couldn't believe that in this day and age, people still have to tell anyone who is not the bride or groom not to wear white! As you can already tell, the OP was declared not the AH, and you share this post with your loved ones to get their own opinions as well.

Maryjane