Redditor's Decision To Turn Down A Place As Her Brother's Fiancee's Bridesmaid And Refuse To Attend The Wedding Gets Support Online

"I told her it was nice to offer and all but I couldn't accept"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• January 29, 2023

Being a bridesmaid entails accepting a lengthy list of obligations. As a bridesmaid, you're required to organize and participate in every pre-wedding event, lend a hand with various wedding-related tasks as needed, and be completely available to the bride during the wedding weekend.

Some people are overly excited to be a bridesmaid, but the OP in today's story rejected the offer, and one wonders why. Well, the OP's brother is 13 years older than her, and she has known her whole life (all 19 years of it) that he would have preferred to remain an only child.

The OP and her brother aren't close, and he has never had time for the OP. He'd speak to their parents and visit them, but it was like the OP wasn't there.

Over the years, the OP has gotten used to it. The OP also added that her brother has never shown up for her birthdays or gotten her anything for Christmas or her birthday.

The OP's parents were bothered but always told her that once they were both grown, their relationship would be more equal and could grow. But did that happen?

Well, you can read the whole story for yourself and see how the OP rejected the brother's fiancee's offer to be her bridesmaid and that she won't even be attending the wedding as you keep scrolling down below. 

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The OP's brother never showed up to her birthdays, never got her anything for Christmas or her birthday

She brought up how they needed to include the OP since all of her siblings were bridesmaids and groomsmen

Here are some of the most upvoted comments from redditors in response to the story above

He made it clear he didn't want you in his life

Your brother wouldn't care if you attend or not

She might not even know how much he hates you

Why should you stand up for him?

You are giving him the gift he always wanted

This redditor wants the OP to do something fun that day

Go and enjoy your wedding free weekend

Family clearly wasn't important the rest of your life

There's not a chance your absence will overshadow things

He never even made an effort

You have every right to turn down the invitation

His future wife sounds like a real price

Maybe he should have grown out of it

You must have been incredibly hurt over the years

She must have known you guys are not close

He is the kid you grew up around

He would not care if you are not going

It's not a charming quality to possess as a man

Your parents should be backing up her decision

Redditors were of the opinion that the OP's parents ought to be ashamed that they didn't bring their son up better and apparently spoiled him rotten. They too are probably worried about how the OP's absence will reflect on them as parents.

They also said that the bride-to-be really ought to be considering whether she wants to spend her life with someone who could be that cruel to his own sister.

Maryjane