Redditor Gets Called A "Brat" For Avoiding Toxic Family Friend And Told She Was Responsible For "Managing" Her

"My mom treats her like a daughter and she treats me like a gremlin."

Sophia

• Published in Interesting
• July 22, 2023

In life, we meet people who spread negativity, draining our positivity and self-assurance, which leaves us feeling exhausted and emotionally drained. To protect our emotional well-being, it's important to create distance from such influences and surround ourselves with supportive and uplifting individuals.

But when the source of this toxic negativity is a close friend of our own mother, things get complicated. Family ties and loyalty can make it tough to break away from someone who consistently feeds insecurity and pessimism into our lives, leaving us with difficult decisions and emotions to deal with.

To find happiness and personal growth, we need a positive and supportive environment. Creating distance from negative people is crucial for our self-preservation, enabling us to cultivate a positive mindset and emotional stability.

However, dealing with negativity tied to family connections adds complexity as we navigate the balance between self-care and loyalty to loved ones. And it's even more complicated if it seems like your mom treats her friend more like a child of hers compared to her treatment of you.

Well, we have just the situation for this. Here we have a Redditor who asked the r/AITA subcommunity if they were an a-hole for avoiding a particular family friend because, well, they're not exactly pleasant to be around.

Just take a look at the story below...

OP's parents, who had friends overseas, sent their children in the same country as OP for them to go to uni. They had a daughter who was currently living in the same city as OP.

After hearing that the mom's friend was feeling lonely, OP's mom invited her over for lunch, despite past conflicts between them.

The visit became uncomfortable as the guest made snarky comments and overstayed her welcome, yet OP's mom continued to extend invitations, leading to frequent requests to visit again.

She made some pretty passive-aggressive comments to OP about being able to find a job.

OP admits to feeling jealous of someone who receives favorable treatment from their mother regarding their appearance, while OP faced criticism and body shaming.

The mom even went as far as commenting about OP's potential inability to fit into a wedding dress in the future.

Feeling hurt by her mother's differential treatment, OP plans to be away during the family friend's visit by scheduling back-to-back appointments.

Here's what people have to say:

Better keep an eye on those pawns—you're definitely not the asshole for seeing through her game, OP.

Having experienced a similar situation during their younger days, this one understands the feeling of jealousy when their father treated their step-siblings better.

Points well taken!

Cold hard truth.

OP holds no responsibility towards that person, and their decision to remove themselves from the situation reflects a commendable commitment to their well-being.

OP's—or anyone's—job isn't, and will never be, to manage another adult.

Without a doubt, they are not the ones in the wrong.

Show her the exit door and hand her a job application on her way out.

As an adult, we owe no one their time or company, especially when it comes to someone we don't like.

It all boils down to respect, after all.

"Managing her" sounds like a whole new job position they didn't sign up for.

Who needs a bully hanging around, anyway?

If their mother took a stand and spoke up against the rotten behavior, it could put an end to the insults, but her silence only allows it to continue.

It's every person's right to choose who they like and don't like.

Age is just a number, but dealing with an infuriating mom takes a mix of strategy and patience.

Exactly! It's a no-brainer, like oil and water—some things just don't mix, and that's okay!

Choosing to distance ourselves from individuals who consistently bring negativity into our lives is an act of self-preservation, enabling us to cultivate a positive mindset and emotional stability. Props to OP for standing her ground, because ain't nobody really got time for dealing with people like that!

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Sophia