16-Year-Old Faces Backlash From Relatives For Skipping Uncle's Funeral Due To His Past Remarks About Her Mom

"Just because someone is dead does not mean they become a saint"

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• August 11, 2023

How terrible of a person do you have to be to factor into someone else's divorce? An OP knew when she met her brother-in-law, Larry, that they would never get along.

He picks on people and constantly disregards their boundaries. Larry didn't like OP because she was one of the few people who stood up to him.

OP asked her husband, Adam if they could go low contact with his brother, but he refused. Larry escalated his campaign against OP and spoke badly about her to anyone who listened.

OP's daughter, who was 13 years old at that time, heard a lot of the horrible things her uncle said about her mom. She and OP had a close relationship even then, so she was deeply affected by her uncle's tirades.

Larry was one of the reasons why OP's marriage ended. When OP's daughter was 14, she once again witnessed her uncle lambasting her mom.

OP's daughter defended her when Larry took it too far. The teen told her uncle that he was nothing but a bully.

She later made OP's ex-husband choose between her or Larry. They reached a compromise where OP's daughter wouldn't have to be around her uncle again.

OP's daughter then started therapy and never had to see her Uncle Larry again. OP soon found out that her ex-husband made their daughter apologize to her uncle over and over again when she pushed back against his negative rants about OP.

OP's ex-husband was made to apologize to their daughter for what he did. They started repairing their father-daughter relationship after that.

Larry passed away recently and OP's ex-husband was devastated.

OP's daughter didn't want to go to the funeral. She explained her reasons to OP and she respected her daughter's choice.

Adam is upset that OP didn't make their daughter go to her uncle's funeral. Even his relatives are blaming OP for the rift between her ex-husband and his brother. Is any of the fallout OP's fault?

OP shouldn't be made to feel guilty. She should be applauded for raising a thoughtful person whose choices she respects.

People who said nothing while Larry bullied anyone who stood up to him don't get an opinion on OP's and her daughter's life choices

Larry's death doesn't erase the horrible things he said and did. OP and her daughter are under no obligation to forgive their tormentor when he never showed remorse.

OP's ex-husband is halfway through losing his daughter because he can't accept the fact that his brother was a bad person

Children do not easily forget the times when they needed their parents to support them and didn't get it

OP's ex-husband chose his brother once. If he makes the same mistake again, he will have a hard time repairing his relationship with his daughter if she even allows him near her.

It may be petty, but it's an option if they don't stop harassing OP

It was completely unfair for Adam and his family to blame OP for everything in the first place. Why didn't they see any problem with Larry's behavior and only commented on OP distancing herself?

OP's daughter shows more maturity than the adults who are giving her grief for not attending her bully's funeral

The only a**holes here are Adam and his family. OP's daughter grew up listening to her uncle talk about her mom in the most unfavorable light.

What she heard all those years was so bad that she needed therapy. You don't forget those experiences just because your bully is gone.

Chelsi