Lady "Steals" A Baby Name From Her Dad And His Affair Partner, Gets Accused Of Causing Conflict In The Family

"It feels like this rift in the family is all for nothing"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• June 27, 2023

It's frightening to choose a name that you will use daily and that your child will use for the rest of their life. What's a name worth? A lot.

In fact, one of the most challenging aspects of pregnancy, aside from actual labor, may be naming your child. When deciding on a name for your child, you need to consider your priorities.

Yes, you are naming the child. However, it's crucial that the name you select be able to evolve with your child's past toddlerhood.

Some names are quite adorable for infants, but it's impossible to imagine them on an adult. It might seem too mature for a tiny newborn to choose an official first name that will fit them through adulthood, but you can always use adorable nicknames when the baby is young! 

OP's mom had the idea of having four children and naming them in order to spell out “L-O-V-E” with their first initials. However, she died and never got to complete the word “love."

When OP was younger, her mom did tell her that if she couldn't have a baby anymore, she would love for one of them to have a baby and finish it for her. OP was around 6-7 months pregnant when her father and his wife (and former mistress) announced their pregnancy and their plan to complete the LOVE names.

OP told them of her mother's wishes, but her dad says it’ll be better with all of them in the same generation of the family. 

So now the OP is asking the AITA subreddit community...

OP's artistic mom had the idea of having 4 children, and naming them in order to spell out “L-O-V-E” with their first initials

The OP did tell her dad about how her late mom said she wanted one of them to carry on the name when the OP was a child

OP's step mom asked her for permission, and politely asked the OP to change her mind on the baby's name

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

I took a baby name my Father and Step mother announced they were going to use for their baby which came from my mom.

Starting unnecessary drama / ruining family relationships by using the name myself when they could just name their baby another name with an E, and my mom didnt say he couldn't use it directly. It just felt disrespectful. Maybe its not and I'm just being sensitive.

Here are the most upvoted comments from other Redditors in response to the OP's story

Honoring his late wife

OP's dad has no right whatsoever

It's incredibly callous and self absorbed

OP is spelling love with initials

OP's baby is the E baby here

That was the plan for years

What the OP should reply them instead

What the OP should reply her step mother

The OP is only trying to keep her late mother's wishes, and so many redditors understood her. She was declared not the AH, and if you are in support of this verdict, do leave a comment below.

And don't forget to share this article with your loved ones to get their opinions as well.

Maryjane