Man Lashes Out At His Mom Who Always Dismisses His Wife's Illness As Her Being Lazy
A lot of us aspire to be the brave partner who never takes their hands off the patient's bed at the hospital. That might not be what your loved one needs from you if that's how you imagine things will work out.
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It can feel terrible to leave your partner's side and you could experience crippling shame for falling short of expectations. However, your loved one needs you to do something else as long as it will make the difference between you being a guilty, nervous mess and your best self.
It can be going home to sleep, going for a stroll, or spending an hour crying on your friend's shoulder but in all this, you don't need someone downplaying your partner's sickness. OP's wife has been sick for almost two years and she has had pain in her stomach, chronic constipation, vomiting, bad periods, and recently rapid weight loss.
OP's mom had it in her head that his wife was using him or was lazy or mentally ill. She even told OP's wife that women have periods and she needs to get up and help out.
Things started to take a turn for the worse when OP's wife started rapidly losing weight. After many tests, it turns out it’s intestinal cancer, and they want to remove a large chunk of her intestine and do chemotherapy.
OP called to tell his mom, but she made a statement that made him lash out at her.
OP kicks off his story
![OP kicks off his story](https://static.dailysquared.com/posts/cb926033d3a4d44ec29eab3a846607b9_27913_700.jpg)
"How was she to supposed to know your wife was really sick”
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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:
Maybe I shouldn’t have blown up on my mom and called her names and blocked her. I could have explained nicely about my wife’s cancer
The Reddit post got hundreds of comments and here are a few of the most upvoted ones
![The Reddit post got hundreds of comments and here are a few of the most upvoted ones](https://static.dailysquared.com/posts/72dbc94a5761594d6cb0fafbfe5ce0d1_27913_700.jpg)
It's the 21st century and women are still routinely dismissed by medical practitioners
![It's the 21st century and women are still routinely dismissed by medical practitioners](https://static.dailysquared.com/posts/a3316da1353cb351881b45cba7458aec_27913_700.jpg)
OP's mom chose to be dismissive and assume the worst
![OP's mom chose to be dismissive and assume the worst](https://static.dailysquared.com/posts/a2081e275f8d9bab5e8a601646f3a17b_27913_700.jpg)
OP's mom.dismossed it just like the AH doctors
![OP's mom.dismossed it just like the AH doctors](https://static.dailysquared.com/posts/af35fdd75e88cd479b9f22125ca867de_27913_700.jpg)
This Redditor hopes the wife's treatment was successful
![This Redditor hopes the wife's treatment was successful](https://static.dailysquared.com/posts/353d9e68bbe06bb125c525edcc91a811_27913_700.jpg)
It's all shame to the OP's mom as they're told to consider digging up
![It's all shame to the OP's mom as they're told to consider digging up](https://static.dailysquared.com/posts/0fe4c9e1d983ee9a8c2f1fee893af917_27913_700.jpg)
The OP is standing by his wife and their vows, and that's a beautiful thing to see
![The OP is standing by his wife and their vows, and that's a beautiful thing to see](https://static.dailysquared.com/posts/5654b196fe0008c7cc4feb38877f2019_27913_700.jpg)
OP's wife is very lucky to have someone like him
![OP's wife is very lucky to have someone like him](https://static.dailysquared.com/posts/ac53d8b29437af0a21daefd85ecf7425_27913_700.jpg)
It sounds like they jumped on the chance to call her lazy and dramatic
![It sounds like they jumped on the chance to call her lazy and dramatic](https://static.dailysquared.com/posts/07ad8d9df34fb2272e81b7af235e3b0e_27913_700.jpg)
Redditors say OP's mom doesn't need proof of anything, and if she wants an excuse to be good to someone, she should anticipate that in return. Also, she hasn't given the OP and his wife any reason to believe that she's not a horrible, judgmental person.
Redditors applauded the OP for focusing on his wife and disregarding everyone attempting to turn this into an issue about his mother. Eventually, he was declared not the AH.