Siblings Argue About Their Weddings And Rush To Send Their Save-The-Dates First After Realizing Their Weddings Were Week Apart

It's going to be a fun decision for their relatives!

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• February 11, 2024

A Redditor found it difficult to feel happy for their sibling's wedding after being informed of when the ceremony was to be held. Their sibling and future sister-in-law planned to get married a week before OP's wedding.

OP got engaged to their partner in September of last year. They went straight into planning mode and quickly found a venue they loved.

They booked the venue for December of the following year. OP's sibling got engaged at the beginning of last year.

Unlike OP and their partner, their brother and his fiancée waited before they committed to any wedding plans. The couple eventually declared their intention to elope.

Still, OP asked their brother and his fiancée if they started preparing for their nuptial. The couple had the same set of responses: they didn't know what they wanted to do and had not booked anything.

OP's efforts to remain updated about their brother's wedding plans were moot after the couple's surprise announcement a year after their engagement. They booked a venue, and their wedding would be held a week before OP's.

OP's brother and his fiancée explained why they chose that date. OP and their partner were upset because the couple decided to hold their wedding so close to theirs.

It wasn't something OP and their partner would do to another couple. They understood how much effort and money went into making a wedding special.

OP reached out to their sibling and his fiancée a few days later. They told OP that they didn't want to discuss their plans with them any further.

OP's patience ran out after that. Their brother and his fiancée said they were unwilling to adjust their wedding schedule and that OP's feelings about the matter were irrelevant.

OP felt just as unmoved as their brother. They didn't appreciate the stone-walling and the way their brother coldly communicated with them.

The four haven't been able to reach an amicable decision. OP said they weren't trying to prevent their brother from having a wedding a week before theirs.

They just felt blindsided by the sudden decision.OP thought they were owed at least a heads-up before the announcement. Their brother's quick dismissal of their feelings and attempts to dictate their emotions also left a bad taste in OP's mouth.

Save the dates can be quickly sent out via email.

The best solution is for OP to proceed with their wedding planning as if their sibling's decision hasn't been made. There is no need for drama.

If OP wants to pack their side of the aisle, they need to maintain a good relationship with their relatives.

Their actions prove this to be the case.

Their relatives are going to get caught in the middle of this tug-of-war.

If OP's brother decided on their wedding date out of spite, then he practically ensured a distant relationship with OP.

OP shouldn't have to move their wedding date. They do have to be at peace with the likelihood of not having as many of their relatives present at their wedding.

OP's promptness in sending their save-the-dates and wedding invites out will determine their number of guests.

Another commenter said they would skip both weddings and focus on their holiday plans instead of risking hurting either sibling.

OP's problem with their sibling is not a simple issue of who behaved like a jerk. OP's desire to be considered when their sibling finalized their wedding plans was understandable.

Their brother's explanation for choosing that specific date for his wedding was also reasonable unless he has a history of upstaging OP. The siblings' inability to compromise will at least give their family an interesting holiday wedding season.

Chelsi