20 Online Users Share What They Believe Are The Telltale Signs That A Person Is Selfish

Some people are just selfish to the core.

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• Published in Interesting
• May 26, 2023

Selfish people, unfortunately, are everywhere. They can be within our family members, friendship circles, and social groups.

That person can be someone close to us. We can even be selfish ourselves—we just don't notice it.

Handling these people is often frustrating and challenging. And if you're constantly in their presence, they can impact your well-being or drain you emotionally.

Selfish individuals tend to prioritize their desires and interests, often neglecting the feelings and concerns of those around them. And while we can't choose our family members, we can certainly choose the people whom we get close to or get involved with.

Determining selfish behavior in people is an excellent life skill when navigating relationships. When we recognize it in people, we can better understand the motivations of these individuals.

This skill will then enable us to make the right decisions about our interactions and the healthy boundaries we need to establish. In today's post, we will look at answers posted by users in the AskReddit subreddit.

A Redditor named Potatoe_stealer asked this question:

What is a tell tale sign that someone is a selfish person?

The post has gained significant attention, with people posting general answers and specific situations that reveal the true colors of a selfish person. We collected some of the best answers and here are 20 of them.

They're selfish they don't feel remorseful over hurting people.

They feel no remorse for how they’ve hurt others

Selfish people don't bother listening to your troubles.

When anything that happens to them is the worst thing in the world and whatever happens to you is not that bad and a waste of time talking about or dealing with.

“I know your mom died a month ago but my best friend of 3 years died too so I don’t see why you are so sad all of the time.”

I think narcissism and selfishness go hand-in-hand so there you go.

They think they're always right.

Doesn’t think they’re wrong in the slightest bit. They can’t shoulder any bit of responsibility

Selfish people do this at a potluck.

They bring nothing to the potluck but are first in line.

They want all the credit.

They don’t remember the times people helped them, but remember clearly all the times they have helped others.

No explanation needed.

Littering

They want all the attention.

They respond with how worse their situation is when you’re sharing your problems with them. No try for help or listening, just trying to draw attention on their side

They can't return favors

They gladly take any favours you do for them, but when asked if they could reciprocate once, they get defensive and or aggressive and act like you’re the selfish one for daring to expect something in return.

It doesn’t make you a bad person to expect reciprocation in a relationship with someone else, romantic or platonic. Relationships are give and take and that makes them healthy. It’s not entitlement to expect kindness if you give kindness. If you’re the only one giving, you’re being taken advantage of.

Selfish people are drama queens.

Every bad thing you do to them is drama-worthy

Stop mingling with this kind of person.

If you are in a group and there is one person that is constantly interrupting the middle of what you or anyone else is saying generally to brag about themselves with a ‘one-upper’ story, is generally a precursor to stop associating with them. I’ve met too many of them in my days and they are more often than not happy to throw you under the bus whenever the opportunity arises.

Selfish people don't hold themselves accountable.

If they refuse to take responsibility for their actions

It's always about them when it's supposed to be about you.

They have that superpower to lead everything back to themselves. Even when you’re actually talking about your own life or a specific problem of yours, they somehow make it that you start talking about them instead without even changing the topic.

It's hard to have conversations with selfish people.

Conversations don’t feel like conversations.

They are one sided talks about what they want, their thoughts, their life, their priorities, etc.a

They'll never admit their faults even when it's obvious that they're in the wrong.

They never admit when they are wrong even if there is physical evidence!

Selfish people always play the victim card.

When they always play the victim card. 99% of the time they only place themselves in the victim seat by ignoring all the effort or cost other people have to endure and only focus on what they go through them selves.

How to detect selfish people at the supermarket

Cliche answer but I have found the “return the shopping cart” test to be pretty accurate. It is such a small thing, but it does tell you if a person thinks small things like that matter.

Why offer at all?

They’re surprised and disgruntled when you accept what they’ve offered.

Selfish people are often rude to service staff.

They’re rude to waitstaff or just staff and employees in general.

Or if they’re situational awareness is severely lacking and they don’t seem to have a problem with it.

These people are very annoying.

For me it’s people who listen to loud tik tok in public. Especially in relatively silent places.

Selfish people think children are an investment.

People who have kids on purpose, and then act like their kids owe them (well above and beyond basic kindness and human respect) for the rest of their lives.

We, ourselves, can recognize selfish behavior and choose the people we want in our lives. We shouldn't try changing other people.

So if it's a friend or a partner who's inherently selfish, perhaps it's time to reconsider the relationship. Maybe it's time to think about whether it's worth keeping these people in your life.

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