Newlyweds Labelled "Ungrateful" And "Disrespectful" By Their Families For Choosing To Elope

You can't lose something you never had.

Stephanie

• Published in Interesting
• May 20, 2024

It's not possible to please everyone all of the time, as much as we might try to. And sometimes, we just have to do what's right for us.

When Reddit user u/Sensitive_Mouse6747 and his partner decided to elope, their families weren't impressed. And the Redditor recently shared his story in the r/AITA (Am I The A**hole?) subreddit.

He explained that he and his wife have been together for five years and were engaged for two of those. The couple agreed from the beginning that they wanted to elope and then have a small party later down the track so that both families could celebrate with them.

They decided on their fifth anniversary as the wedding date and told only their parents what they were doing. The OP explained that both of their families can be pretty opinionated about their choices.

The plan was to tell their entire families later in the month once all the paperwork was finalized. However, once they were married, the OP's wife decided to share a few photos on social media.

Just a few photos of the couple on their special day and showing off their new wedding rings. But things went awry when the bride's cousin saw the pictures and then proceeded to tell the rest of the family about the elopement.

Some of the OP's wife's family members were furious that they hadn't been included in the big day. They accused the OP and his wife of being ungrateful and disrespectful.

The couple tried to explain their reasons for keeping their wedding private, but their family members didn't want to hear it. They insisted that the couple needed to redo their ceremony so that they could be involved.

The OP and his wife felt that their families were unreasonable, so they refused to have another ceremony. They haven't heard from their families since.

The couple are happy with their marriage, but the actions of their families understandably hurt them. Now the OP is wondering if they are the a**holes here.

The Redditor asked if he's an a**hole for not telling his wife's family they got married.

He explained that he and his wife have been together for five years and have been engaged for two of those.

The couple agreed from the beginning that they wanted to elope and then have a small party later down the track.

They decided on their fifth anniversary as the wedding date and told only their parents what they were doing.

The plan was to tell their entire families later in the month once all the paperwork was finalized.

Just a few photos of the couple on their special day.

Some of the OP's wife's family members were furious that they hadn't been included in the big day.

They accused the OP and his wife of being ungrateful and disrespectful.

The couple tried to explain their reasons for keeping their wedding private, but their family members didn't want to hear it.

They insisted that the couple needed to redo their ceremony so that they could be involved.

The OP and his wife felt that their families were being unreasonable, so they refused to have another ceremony.

They haven't heard from their families ever since.

The couple are happy with their marriage, but the actions of their families understandably hurt them.

Now the OP is wondering if they are the a**holes here.

Here's how people reacted.

"They want a party at your expense."

"Ignore the tantrum."

NTA.

If they want to be invited, they can pay for it.

"They are stupid."

You can't lose something you never had.

"Stand your ground."

That's rich!

What are your thoughts on this situation? Do you think the OP and his wife were being unreasonable for denying their families the opportunity to attend their wedding, or should their families have been more understanding?

We would love to hear your opinions on this. You can share your thoughts with us in the comment section.

Stephanie