Mom-To-Be Accused Of Shattering Age-Old Tradition After Skipping Annual Family Vacation Due To Her Pregnancy

“My well-being is more important than some tradition!”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• February 15, 2024

One of the perks of large families is the fun-filled vacations featuring the entire extended clan. However, this could also give rise to a plot twist or two.

Our narrator’s (Original Poster’s) in-laws had a long-running tradition of whisking everyone away to a winter wonderland. It was all snowy slopes and cozy cabins because this merry band of ski enthusiasts was always eager to hit the slopes.

OP, not quite a fan of skiing or snowboarding, opted for the more chill activities like tubing or spa lounging. But come 2022, OP was pregnant, so she couldn’t even indulge in the simple joys of tubing. 

While the in-laws and the rest hit the slopes, OP found herself stuck in a non-baby-proofed room with her pint-sized squad of three. It wasn’t exactly the ideal vacation scenario, but she pulled through for the sake of tradition.

Now, this year, OP was pregnant once again—with triplets. She wasn’t about to repeat old mistakes, so she opted out of the year’s escapade, citing her reasons—she really couldn’t handle babysitting three toddlers in a non-baby-proofed room coupled with pregnancy stress.

You’d think this was enough to garner understanding, but all hell broke loose instead. OP Suddenly became Public Enemy Number One—she was accused of single-handedly shattering their sacred tradition, and her mother-in-law even let the tears flow freely.

OP’s husband defended her as best as he could, but it wasn’t quite enough. His parents still insisted the right thing to do would’ve been to watch the kids in their hotel room anyway.

Technically, she could’ve done that. Was she indeed the villain here?

Let’s dig into the details

A bit of background

OP made her husband opt out for a chunk of the family vacation this year due to incoming triplets. Consequently, MIL wasn’t thrilled about this news

When OP’s husband finally arrived the vacation, he was chewed out by his family for not only missing some days but coming alone

After the vacation, the family invited them for another family event, which they declined again due to the pregnancy. This time, the vitriol was even worse

“Why didn't he go with the toddlers and let you rest up at home while you grow 3 more kids.”

“I’m confused because it doesn’t sound like your husband helps out with the kids during the ‘vacations’.

“Do they not care that you are pregnant, and think it's fine to stress you out? Time to step back from them.”

“Unless you're going for sainthood, they have to understand this ‘family’ vacation is over for you. NTA.”

“How tone deaf and selfish can you be? You're growing three babies. Just wow.”

“Why do they insist on having the kids there if they don't take them out and instead you spend the whole time in a hotel room with them.”

“Take care of yourself, and have a very clear heart to heart with your husband, if need be.”

Redditors unanimously declared that OP isn’t the AH. Some even questioned why her husband didn't take the toddlers with him to allow her have a much-needed breather at home by herself—growing humans is no small feat, after all. 

It’s high time the in-laws cut OP some slack and show a little more compassion. After all, family vacations should be about supporting each other, not tearing each other down.

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Jesse