Mom Asks If She's The A**hole For Taking Her Own Christmas Stocking Down After Getting Tired Of Christmas Duties

This mom does every Christmas duty in her home from decorating all the way to putting stuff in Christmas stockings.

Liezel

• Published in Interesting
• December 23, 2022

Christmas should be one of the merriest, if not the merriest, time of the year for a lot of people. It's a season of merriment, reunions, and gifts, after all.

But there's a lot more that goes on behind the scenes of happy Christmas dinners, parties, and exchanged gifts. And most of the time, the ones handling all those behind-the-scenes stuff are the moms or the matriarchs of the family.

They take care of the decorations, planning and buying the gifts, handing out all the invites, planning the dinners, and all that. And while they might always do it with a smile on their face, that doesn't mean that they don't get tired too.

It also doesn't mean that they are always rewarded for the work that they do, as in the case of Redditor wordsformausername.

This mom has always handled all the Christmas duties of her family, but this time, she felt a little discouraged, especially with her Christmas stocking since she was always the one filling it up herself. So she decided to simply take it down. However, her family is pressuring her to put it back up and continue doing what she's been doing before.

With all that, she's wondering if she's the jerk in the situation. Here's the whole story.

OP asks:

She does literally everything

However, she's felt tired of it this time and decided to not to get anyone anything including for stockings

Her family thought she was just bluffing

When they realized she was serious, they started pressuring her to put her stocking back up and do the same old things

It's so easy to understand why OP would take that decision to take down her stocking. After all the effort and thought she put into every gift and every action she takes for Christmas, all she gets are half-hearted efforts to make her feel somewhat included, and that hurts!

It seems that her family has gotten all too used to her doing everything for them at Christmas that they simply got used to expecting it too. And that's not fair.

As it seems, many people in the comments section agree too. Here are the top comments.

1. She's done all the hard work and yet she's still the bad guy?

2. A very very sad truth all over the world

3. OP isn't alone in this at all

4. The husband should really take a note

5. OP's in the wrong because she won't fix what she did wrong according to the family

6. OP deserves a great break this Christmas and for the next Christmases to come!

7. The husband should also actually freaking learn to share the responsibilities

8. This poster summed it up really nicely

OP should also really treat herself because she deserves it

9. Finding out you're an afterthought to the people closest to you is heartbreaking

10. This person has also found a way to deal with this kind of experience

And their solution is to give people the same amount of thought they give you and it works!

11. This person received a harsh eyeopener

OP is having her own "toothbrush moment"

12. Go to town for only those who deserve it

13. The adults pressuring OP to go back to the old ways can get their own trinkets and fill their own stockings if they want to

14. The missing stocking will be easy enough to cover up for the kids

There might be more behind the adults' discomfort

15. For this Redditor, it was their mom going to the emergency room that had them realizing how much stress their mom had over Christmas preparations

Now, this Redditor has learned that if you want Christmas magic, you have to generate your own magic and contribute

Plus, spread out responsibilities so everybody gets to enjoy the holidays

16. OP really needs to talk to her husband about what she's feeling too

17. Hopefully, the family gets her point

18. Maybe a good sit down to explain the whole situation would help the family understand

19. Hopefully, the family does wake up

20. Really, all it takes is a little thought

It must have been a heart-crushing realization for OP when she thought back to all the times she opened up her stockings to realize nobody had ever really put in the kind of thought she puts in for everybody else. The sadder thing is that so many matriarchs go through the same thing every Christmas.

Hopefully, OP's family would realize all the effort she's doing for all of them and learn to appreciate it. They don't even need to do something grand.

Just a little thoughtfulness and an offering to help would be fantastic.

What do you think?

Liezel