Redditor Calls Her Male Friend Creepy After Complaining That She Left-Swiped Too Many Guys In A Dating App

"He said that I literally rejected 99.99% of the guys who seemed “perfectly fine” and that it’s “unreasonable”."

Ayoub

• Published in Interesting
• May 7, 2023

Most dating apps nowadays are based on looks, which makes many people upset, notably when they can't compete with what's out there. It's definitely shallow and superficial, but when an app is designed based on that principle, all you can do is go somewhere else and try your luck. 

Several dating services offer a different experience, and most of them are based on connecting people without focusing too much on looks. If you don't like the rules somewhere, your only option is to leave since complaining about it will only frustrate you further.

No one can force you to do something you don't want. Especially when it comes to these dating apps that can easily get out of control. 

A Redditor who later deleted her account made a post on the r/AmItheA**hole subReddit where she explained how she called one of her male friends creepy after he secretly watched her while she was using a dating app. The friend complained that the user left-swiped too many guys and got upset.

The friend accused her of using slurs, and his reaction made her doubt how she handled things, so she decided to consult with the Reddit community. Scroll down to check out the full Reddit post, and scroll a little further to read the comments from the original post. 

Here's the original Reddit post by a Redditor who later deleted her account:

OP started casually using the app while she was at the beach with her friends and got some matches.

OP ignored the fact that one of her friends was watching her the whole time.

OP ended up calling the friend crazy for his sudden outburst.

OP got accused of using "slurs" against the friend after calling him "creepy."

OP thinks she might potentially be the a-hole for the following reason:

Here's how the Reddit community reacted to the user's post:

Judging people by their looks is the whole idea of 'swipe' dating apps.

OP's friend might be having a hard time dating and probably related to those 'rejected' guys.

OP's swiping has nothing to do with him, but he wanted to make it that way.

There's nothing wrong with being picky.

"...it does still feel like he's got some resentment against women being free to choose and have standards, too."

Random people on dating apps are not entitled to your time.

OP's friend is being misogynistic and controlling.

OP shattered the wrong view her friend had about himself.

OP's friend is a weirdo, and she doesn't have to explain herself to him.

OP is allowed to make her own decision without outside influence.

"You definitely have the right to judge who you're attracted to based solely on looks."

This situation probably brought some old memories.

OP's friend is a hypocrite for judging her.

OP's friend is jealous of her high standards.

OP has every right to have standards. Her friend probably discovered why he's not getting a lot of matches on dating apps and made it all about OP.

She doesn't owe him an apology since what you do on your phone is private, and he was basically spying on her. If you enjoyed reading this, make sure to check out similar content on our platform.

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