Refusing to Let Roommates Friend Stay Over: AITA?

Are you the jerk for not allowing your roommate's friend into your apartment when you were alone? Picture this: you're a college student sharing a space with your roommate, but she's away for the summer.

One day, she asks you to let her friend into the apartment. At first, you assumed it was just to the building's lobby, but then you realized she wanted the friend to stay the night in your place.

Uncomfortable with a stranger in your home when you're alone, you declined the request, sparking tension with your roommate. The Reddit thread is buzzing with judgments - some say you're not the jerk, asserting that your safety and comfort come first.

Others suggest better communication could have avoided the conflict. The debate rages on about boundaries, safety, and roommate dynamics.

The top comments offer support for your decision, emphasizing the importance of feeling secure in your own space. As the discussion unfolds, it's evident that setting boundaries in shared living spaces can be a delicate matter.

Your story has struck a chord with many, prompting a reflection on personal space, trust, and respect among roommates. Share your thoughts and join the conversation on this relatable roommate dilemma.

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I (20F) and my roommate Sarah (21F) are currently living in an apartment geared towards college students (which we both are) together. Sarah ended up going home for the summer, and a couple of weeks ago, before she had moved back in, she called me, asking if she could let a friend into the apartment.

I, assuming she meant into the building's lobby, agreed (for context you need a fingerprint to get in if the leasing office is closed, which it was). I assumed the friend was maybe visiting another friend, and was honestly a little confused, but the request didn't seem too unreasonable.

Sarah later called, explaining that she actually wanted me to let this friend into my apartment to stay the night, since Sarah had given her the key. I explained that I was very uncomfortable with this, since it was only me in the apartment at that time and I had never met the friend in question.

Since Sarah was not there either I didn't feel safe with a stranger in the apartment. Sarah got very angry about this and has been acting very passive aggressive since that night.

She denied that she was mad about it but will not stop complaining about various things she never had a problem with the previous year we lived together (the main thing being her complaining about me not cleaning up after myself, which I have been doing). Part of me wonders if I could have avoided if I let the friend in.

I know Sarah thinks I'm the a-hole, but am I?

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