Wedding Photographer Reveals Online The Things Men Have Done To Her While Carrying Out Her Work

Men should know when to stop.

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• February 11, 2022

A certain wedding photographer has had it with people violating her personal boundaries, so she went online to speak about it, but little did the lady know that she was addressing something important and that it was an issue suffered by the entire industry. The lady, Kim Williams, is a wedding photographer and videographer based in Brighton, United Kingdom, and she abhors the manner in which some men treat her.

And we're not talking about grins and winks… Nah. They go to the extent of requesting her phone number in-between speechless and continuously touching her without her consent.

Williams initially noticed that her work could feel awkward when she's taking shots on dance floors. She revealed that she didn’t feel very safe when she began shooting weddings and was covering a ton of dance floors and huge gatherings of cis-het men around liquor, as some men would touch her without consent or attempt to ask her out.

Often, men at weddings would often "mansplain" things to her or concede to her male staff members. Williams added that male colleagues she worked weddings with were likewise guilty of this kind of conduct.

She explained that she went through some truly appalling things, like having a photographer clicking at her the entire day and refusing to know her name. He then requested that she take a selfie with him, and later told Williams he was sending it to his wife since she knows he feels weak at the knees over brunettes.

The 30-year-old Kim Williams is a wedding photographer from the United Kingdom, and she shoots 45–50 ceremonies every year.

Williams says it’s not the women’s problem to tackle because we tell them to stop every time, so the men doing the bugging should listen to the ladies and there would be no harassment.

Williams made an Instagram post, explaining every one of the ways in which men have gone too far in hitting on her while she was just doing her job.

Working a job

Not our problem to fix

The same goes for...

She clarified that she would simply love for them to turn up at a wedding and feel safe while also feeling like all they need to do on that day is make the couple and their guests feel great by taking astonishing photographs or shooting wonderful videos without worrying.

Things men did to me at weddings

And she starts

She continues...

And it goes on...

There's more to see

It gets intense

Too many touches

Williams created the hashtag #handsoffwedding for other wedding photographers to use when sharing their work.

This is a men's issue

Misogyny is not a women's issue

I don't have all the answers

What can we do?

One of Kim's biggest supporters is Sam Docker, who has been in the business for nine years and has shot weddings all around the UK, Europe, and internationally. Docker says that this issue isn't minor and that men need to step up.

Men should do more

Sharing her story

Harassed at work

Things need to change

What!

This is a men's issue

Thank you for sharing

The world is listening

She additionally shared a list of tips to assist couples with making their wedding a secure work environment.

How to keep us safe

Prevent it

For the supplier

For men

Call it out

The 5 D's

Feed it back

To the men again

As Kim's post spread online, others spoke about encounters of their own.

Insecurities

According to experience

From a witness

Way to go, Josh

No one should have to deal with this

Let them do their jobs

Maryjane