Wife Wants Open Marriage But Changes Her Mind After Seeing Husband's Success

"I told her that I am content with the situation as it is"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• February 25, 2024

Open marriage, or any open relationship for that matter, whether or not wedding rings are exchanged, goes against everything we have been taught about love commitment. And that's precisely why some people find it fascinating.

There are many reasons why a couple would choose to have an open marriage, and when that choice is made jointly and ethically, it's perfectly acceptable and healthy. Due to the inherent complexity of open marriages, partners establish guidelines and limitations.

Mutually beneficial guidelines can make the difference between a miserable situation and a pleasant, healthy, open marriage. OP's wife asked him to open their marriage while strongly implying that the alternative was divorce.

After thinking it through, the OP agreed, primarily because they have two children and he worked long hours, so divorce sounded horrible. The OP did set up some ground rules, and he listed them in his story.

For the next two years, the OP focused on his job and on his kids. He worked long hours and spent the little free time he had with his kids.

He didn't have the time for dating, so he moved to another room. Now that the OP has managed to fulfill his financial goals, he has started looking to date again.

He got somebody, and all of a sudden, his wife wanted to talk about his dates. The OP refused, but now she wants to repair the marriage suddenly.

Keep scrolling down to read the full story for yourself below. 

The headline

OP didn't had the time for dating so he wasn't even trying

The OP used his free time to finally have a vacation he really needed

OP's wife wants them repair their marriage by going to the counselor

The Reddit post got more than a thousand comments and here are some of the most upvoted ones

She just wanted to mess around

This Redditor would personally go for a divorce

The OP left this detail in the comments

Since Sarah decided to open our marriage, the two of us didn't had any intimate moments, we didn't sleep together, we didn't go outside together.

After I switched to working 30 hours she didn't initiate to change anything.

Our relationship was co-parenting under the same roof really.

Once I started dating other women, she started snooping around. Once she find out I was dating Jane... she wanted to change the rules. Even then she said nothing about closing the relationship. Just change to only having sex outside of marriage.

Which boils down to... me not being able to have a single intimate relationship.

The OP does know the answer

They've been divorced without the paper work

The OP should be proud of himself

She's jealous of the attention the OP's giving the other woman

There's nothing left to fix

Redditors say that OP's marriage was not open in any way, as they only became housemates and co-parents after divorcing years prior. Neither of them seemed to care that they were all co-parenting until the OP found a girlfriend.

Now, OP's wife is terrified because she feels as though she's reading the writing on the wall. The OP was advised to just get a divorce and get it over with already.

Maryjane