Husband Gains Weight And Has Only Set Of Work Clothes That Fit Now, Expects Wife To Wash It Every Day

"The issue is that he has 1 pair of work pants and 1 work shirt he currently fits into. "

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• January 24, 2024

In everyday life, couples often have to work out how to share chores and also take care of what they each need. A story from Reddit shows how this can be tricky.

It's about a 31-year-old woman who's dealing with a problem that's partly about doing laundry, but it's also really about how things are changing and how she talks with her partner. OP does her partner's laundry.

For context, OP makes 70K a year to his ~100K, so she pays $800 of the $2K monthly rent and takes care of his laundry. So far, this arrangement has worked for them (OP was the one who proposed it).

She enjoys doing laundry, and he has never forced her to. The issue is that he has only one pair of work pants and one work shirt that currently fits him.

He has recently gained a significant amount of weight, which OP doesn't mind, but now he can only wear that one work outfit. With summer in full swing,

OP prefers not to do laundry every day. So, is OP in the wrong for telling him that he needs to buy more work clothes?

He keeps assuring her that he will lose weight to fit into his other pants and shirts, but it's been a few months with no sign of progress, and he becomes defensive when she raises the issue. It's essential to note that OP doesn't want this to be about weight gain; she simply doesn't want to do laundry daily because he refuses to purchase a few more shirts and pairs of pants.

OP willingly does her partner's laundry without any pressure from him.

The problem is that he has only one set of work clothes that fit him because he gained weight recently, and it's summer, so doing laundry daily is inconvenient.

OP asking him to buy more work clothes because she doesn't want to do laundry daily.

In the end, he acknowledged that the issue was related to the weight gain.

He should prioritize getting clothes that fit properly, even if it means going up in size temporarily.

OP should suggest limiting weekly washes.

More clothes for rotation are needed to maintain their longevity and avoid running out of options to wear.

He's earning well enough to buy new outfits temporarily for a more comfortable and professional look.

He's avoiding buying new clothes due to weight gain, but it's affecting others

OP's husband hesitates to purchase new clothes that fit because it feels like acknowledging his current size is a defeat.

It's reasonable to expect someone to have at least five work outfits to avoid frequent laundry.

Not reasonable to do laundry daily due to insecurity about weight gain.

The husband needs to buy clothes that fit him now, even if he's gained some weight recently. He can afford to buy new clothes, so there's no reason for him not to.

He might be avoiding it because he's embarrassed about his weight gain, but that's not a good reason to inconvenience everyone in the house. Ideally, each person should have at least five work outfits, so they don't have to do laundry all the time.

It's not fair to make OP do laundry every day just because the husband doesn't want to admit he needs new clothes. They should talk about it and find a solution that works for both of them.

Damjan