Woman Decides Not To Visit Her Parents For Christmas But Is Conflicted As Her Dad Has Health Issues And Her Mom Plays Forgetful

"We just want to spend the holiday with each, at home with no worries of traveling or pet sitters"

Maryjane

• Published in Christmas
• November 20, 2022

Holiday visits to relatives can be a fantastic way to share cherished customs and catch up with distant family members. However, you might be concerned about sleeping in small spaces, fitting everyone in for a quality time, and maintaining your sanity in the presence of everyone.

During this hectic time of year, traveling with children may be stressful as well. But still, people make sure that their vacation is as enjoyable and pleasant as possible.

The holiday of the holidays is Christmas. And yes, it can be very stressful to try to have the perfect Christmas but the OP in today's story managed to conquer that somehow as she and her family visit her parents for Christmas every year.

The OP visited them last year for Christmas, and they had to book an Airbnb as her parents' place (a cute little 4/2 apartment) was full. Two of the rooms are converted into office spaces for the OP's parents, and only one guest bed remains, leaving an air mattress for whoever else stays.

And on top of that, there were some plumbing issues. However, this year the OP and her husband are going on a big trip to NYC, so they wouldn't be visiting her parents.

This was a big issue for the OP, as she had a clue as to what could happen if she didn't go. Keep scrolling to read the thread in full.

The OP starts off her story:

The OP and her husband visits her parents every year for Christmas

The OP had to bring the dog because they couldn't get a pet sitter

We decided, we aren't going to travel for the holidays this year

The OP feels somewhat conflicted over the situation

A slight update the OP had to add

Redditors went straight to the comments section to drop their verdicts and here are some of the most upvoted ones below.

If they want to come over, then it's fine

People who guilt trip you into doing things

They have to remember that it is not your problem

Try to visit your dad more

They ought to respect your reasons

We aren't traveling for the holidays, according to this Redditor

Take some time for yourselves without the stress

They are adults with their own lives

Let them come to you or enjoy the holiday alone

It's not like you've avoided spending holidays with them

You can't live your lives around other's priorities

This Redditor believes the OP did nothing wrong

You can visit when it's convenient to do so

This Redditor's in-law's family is huge

Send your parents texts and emails

Free yourself from the umbilical cord

They should accept and respect your decisions

A perfectly reasonable plan, according to this Redditor

Regardless of whether people are traveling for Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, or the New Year, they always try to make the best out of it. Redditors didn't fault the OP as she is an adult and has the right to go on a vacation if she so pleases.

What advice do you have to dish to the OP? Share this post to get other people's opinions as well.

Maryjane