Narcissistic Mother Confronts Her Narcissistic Future Son-In-Law, Misses Daughter's Wedding
It's not uncommon for sparks to fly when two different families come together. But when those sparks turn into fiery conflicts, it can make for an uncomfortable and less-than-ideal situation.
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From disagreements over wedding plans to past misunderstandings, there can be many reasons behind this not-so-harmonious relationship. Sometimes in the journey to "happily ever after," there are some rough patches.
And this is one of them! OP's daughter's husband is described as a narcissist by OP (she). OP shares that her daughter used to confide in her about their nasty fights every few months, during which the husband would yell and get in her face.
Despite her daughter's request not to intervene, OP once confronted the husband after he got frustrated during a call with her husband, leading to an argument. The husband admitted to acting that way toward OP's daughter and apologized but blamed her daughter's behavior.
The situation escalated when OP shared her concerns with her husband's father, who also worked with him. In response, the father sent a message asking them to use the office phone instead and later unfriended them on Facebook.
OP's daughter had two bridal showers, citing the earlier dispute with the husband's parents. OP disagreed with her daughter's decision and suggested she should not have had any bridal shower if it was going to be that way.
Before the wedding, OP's husband tried apologizing to the daughter's fiancé, but he didn't respond, possibly blocking him. OP encouraged her daughter to ensure he read the apology, but she avoided the matter and accused OP of causing drama on her big day.
This led to OP not attending the wedding, and since then, their relationship has been strained. Read the story below:
OP's daughter's husband is a narcissist, causing nasty fights with her.
Family conflict and miscommunication lead to separate bridal showers
OP continues:
Immature behavior and drama from all parties involved
OP should support her daughter instead of isolating her
OP may not be qualified to diagnose or share someone else's diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder
Daughter trapped between controlling fiancé and manipulative mother
Interfering in an abusive relationship was a terrible and foolish decision
OP caused unnecessary drama and may have contributed to her daughter's comfort with marrying a narcissist due to her upbringing.
OP's husband apologized for his actions
OP breached her daughter's trust, caused drama on her daughter's wedding day, and destroyed relationships with both her daughter and her daughter's fiancé's parents.
OP's misusing the term "narcissist" for son-in-law
This situation portrays the consequences of actions when individuals choose to "eff around and find out." The husband's late and inadequate apology on the wedding day highlights the importance of addressing issues promptly.
Meanwhile, OP fails to apologize, possibly contributing to the strained relationships. Moreover, the misuse of the term "narcissist" serves as a reminder for self-reflection before labeling others.