Redditor Tells Her Sister To "Prepare For The Worst" After She Prevented Her Partner's Mom From Getting To Meet Their Baby Before She Died
When a new baby arrives, it's natural for the excited family members to be eager to meet the latest addition. But ultimately, it's the new parents who decide who gets to meet the baby and when.
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Recently, Reddit user u/Popular-Valuable-243 shared a story in the r/AITA (Am I The A**hole?) subreddit about how the birth of her sister's baby caused a rift in their family. She explained that when her older sister, "Eve," gave birth to her first child, "Lori," the excitement was sadly overwhelmed by the tension between the new parents and the OP's mother.
Although Eve's pregnancy was unplanned, the baby was wanted, and Eve's partner, "Jack," was an involved father. He attended most of Eve's prenatal appointments and even supported Eve when she decided she wanted her mother in the room when she gave birth instead of him.
The OP says the plan was for their mother to be in the room for the birth and then for her to stay with Eve and Jack for a week after the baby was born. Everyone agreed to that plan, but things changed when the OP's mom had to leave the state to go and be with their aunt, who was having some personal problems.
Jack made it clear that he wasn't happy about Eve's mom leaving so late in the pregnancy. But when Eve went into labor, Jack ended up being in the delivery room for the birth.
The OP says her mom expressed how sad she was to have missed Lori's birth, so she and Eve decided that no one else would be able to meet the baby until she was back. Eve made the decision without discussing it with Jack first, and he was understandably upset.
His mom had also been looking forward to meeting Lori, and it didn't seem fair that she had to miss out. He reluctantly went along with it to make Eve happy, but then her mom missed her flight and couldn't get home for another day.
The OP says their mom could have rented a car, but she didn't want to spend the money, so she waited for the next flight instead. Jack asked Eve if she would reconsider allowing his mom to meet Lori, considering the circumstances, but she wouldn't budge.
Tragically, Jack's mom was in a horrible car crash, and she passed away before ever getting to meet her granddaughter. Jack was understandably distraught, and he moved into the guest bedroom after attending his mother's funeral alone.
Jack refused to defend Eve when his family members started calling her selfish and awful. So, eventually, Eve packed her bags and moved to her mother's house.
The OP says she laughed when her mother said that Jack probably just needed space. Of course, Eve and their mom wanted to know what was so funny.
Eventually, the OP said that although the accident wasn't Eve's fault, she kept Jack's mom from meeting Lori, and there was no way Jack would ever forgive her for that. Eve started to cry, and now the OP is wondering if she's the a**hole here.
The Redditor asked if she's an a**hole for telling her sister she shouldn't overvalue herself.
She explained that when her older sister gave birth to her first child, the excitement was sadly overwhelmed by tension.
Although Eve's pregnancy was unplanned, the baby was wanted.
He even supported Eve when she decided she wanted her mother in the room when she gave birth instead of him.
The OP says the plan was for their mother to be in the room for the birth and then for her to stay with Eve and Jack for a week after the baby was born.
Everyone agreed to that plan, but things changed when the OP's mom had to go away suddenly.
Jack made it clear that he wasn't happy about Eve's mom leaving so late in the pregnancy.
When Eve went into labor, Jack ended up being in the delivery room for the birth.
The OP says her mom expressed how sad she was to have missed Lori's birth, so she and Eve decided that no one else would be able to meet the baby until she was back.
His mom had also been looking forward to meeting Lori, and it didn't seem fair that she had to miss out.
He reluctantly went along with it to make Eve happy, but then her mom missed her flight and couldn't get home for another day.
The OP says their mom could have rented a car, but she didn't want to spend the money, so she waited for the next flight instead.
Jack asked Eve if she would reconsider allowing his mom to meet Lori, considering the circumstances, but she wouldn't budge.
Tragically, Jack's mom was in a horrible car crash, and she passed away before ever getting to meet her granddaughter.
Jack was understandably distraught, and he moved into the guest bedroom after attending his mother's funeral alone.
Jack refused to defend Eve when his family members started calling her selfish and awful.
The OP says she laughed when her mother said that Jack probably just needed space.
Of course, Eve and their mom wanted to know what was so funny.
Eventually, the OP said that although the accident wasn't Eve's fault, she kept Jack's mom from meeting Lori, and there was no way Jack would ever forgive her for that.
Now the OP is wondering if she's the a**hole here.
Here's how people reacted.
That poor child.
"That is a very tough thing to overcome."
"Does your sister even like Jack?"
It's okay, Jack will get 50/50 custody in the breakup.
What are your thoughts on this situation? Do you think the OP was out of line telling her sister that Jack would never forgive her, or was she stating the facts?
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