Redditor Asks If She Should Just Pack And Leave Her Husband While He Is At Work Because He Doesn't Want A Divorce

"Should I pack and leave while he’s at work?"

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• September 24, 2023

Getting a divorce is one of the hardest decisions in life. You know you promised 'forever,' but if things just don't work no matter what you do, and if you feel trapped in a relationship that should be your tailwind, then it's definitely time to divorce.

But cutting ties and making the final move by filing for a divorce is a process that could also take an amount of time. And that's the step where a Reddit user got stuck, so she asked the Reddit community for opinions and support.

The OP explained she has been married to her husband for almost two years and together for three years. But she has always felt more invested in the relationship than he has.

Despite her commitment and sacrifices, including raising his child from another relationship and assisting him in getting his green card, the OP has consistently discovered her husband's infidelity. But she always chose to forgive him, even though it harmed her mental and physical well-being.

Recently, she stumbled upon his profile on a fetish website, which deeply hurt her. However, she forgave him again but needed some time alone and took a trip to Arizona to visit her family.

Before leaving, the OP installed a tracker on her vehicle and found out her husband traveled out of state right after she left. During her trip, she met a guy, and the two quickly became close, which showed her that maybe it was time to divorce and relocate to Arizona.

When she returned home, she told her husband about what happened and wanted a divorce. But then he began to show her remorse, expressing emotions she had never seen from him before.

He has been love-bombing her and revealed that he's been seeking therapy. He also told her he doesn't want to divorce, but the OP remains firm in her decision.

Now, feeling even more trapped, the OP wonders if she should secretly leave while he's at work and avoid all toxic feelings.

The original story:

The OP explained she has always felt more invested in the relationship than her husband:

But, recently, she discovered he was cheating on her:

But it wasn't all, she learned more about his affairs later:

Then, she went on a trip and put a tracker on his vehicle because of her insecurity:

But while on a trip, she unexpectedly met a nice guy there and changed her perspective:

When she came home, she asked him for a divorce, and he started love-bombarding her:

The OP also told him everything that happened, but he said he didn't care because he loved her:

The OP said she naively thought they would end things smoothly:

So, she's thinking of leaving while he is at work:

A Redditor said she should do so

"Stop feeling sorry for him"

"Just pack and go"

"I was so worried you were going to forgive him again"

"Waste no more time on him"

Redditors advised the OP to pack and go while her husband was at work. She has been in a toxic relationship, and the trip to Arizona opened her eyes.

Her husband might have changed, but it is not worth sticking around to find out. Their relationship is already too damaged.

Filip