After Moving In With Her BF, Redditor Discovers How Lazy And Irresponsible Her BF Is, He Made Her The Primary Provider And Caretaker Of His Dog

He refused to pay her back for the dog food and vet bills because they now live together

Chelsi

• Published in Animal Stories
• November 29, 2022

It's normal to imagine your future with someone if you are in a serious long-term relationship. It's safe to assume that your relationship is headed toward marriage if that is what you both agree upon.

Nothing, however, is set in stone, and plans like that can fall apart just as fast as we pictured them. For this couple, it started when they moved in together.

OP and her boyfriend have been dating for two years before they moved into a fifth-floor apartment together. Her boyfriend has been a dog owner for four years while OP has had her dog for ten.

They each were responsible for their dogs prior to living together but that system fell apart once they shared an apartment. In the early days of bliss, they walked the dogs together before and after work — OP went the extra mile and went home during her lunch breaks to walk the dogs again.

Six months later, the routine slowly changed and OP is now solely responsible for both of the dogs' daily walks. OP's boyfriend said he is too tired from work to join them and once he goes up the stairs, he won't be coming down.

The trouble is they don't live in the safest neighborhood and walking dogs at night alone as a woman can be dangerous. OP has been approached several times by strangers during these walks and she told her BF about it.

He dismissed OP's concerns and said she is overreacting. He reassured her that their two gentle and sweet dogs will defend her if need be.

OP has also been feeding the dogs by herself. She also pays for the dog food which costs her roughly $80/month

When they went for a hike and her BF's dog slipped on an embankment, OP paid for the vet bill. Her BF said he won't pay her back since they live together.

OP had enough soon after

OP didn't take the dog out for their usual morning walk. Twenty minutes later, her BF was out walking the dog.

OP thought the problem was solved but he returned to his old ways. He went to work without taking the dog for a walk — OP saw that the dog peed when she got back to the apartment.

Her boyfriend also neglected to feed his dog or even clean the mess from the floor

They had a fight when he got home. He called OP rude and a b*tch for not taking care of his dog.

He said OP was being cruel to his dog. He said that it shouldn't be a problem since she was taking her dog out for a walk anyway.

His reason for not helping her was his laborious job. He said he deserves to come home, relax, and do nothing after a long day at work.

OP doesn't know how to proceed because she doesn't want either of the dogs to suffer. She loves both of them and wishes them no harm but she also doesn't want her boyfriend to continue his irresponsibility.

It's not too late for OP to course-correct and leave this lazy man. He doesn't want a GF, he wants a maid who will do everything for him with a sweet smile on her face while he wastes his life in front of the TV.

Run far away from this man and never, ever allow yourself to be trapped in a marriage with him OP!

He waited two years to show OP who he really is. He will not get better in a day or in a year.

Leave while you still can, OP

His actions spoke for him and OP allowed it to happen. She has been allowing him to use her and it's time she puts a stop to it.

He's such a catch! Who wouldn't want to be with someone who can't do his chores and wants you to pay for everything?

OP told him it was dangerous for her to go on walks alone at night but he dismissed her and even said she was being paranoid. How lazy is this guy?

He is a mooch and OP needs to leave him as soon as she can. He will never see her as his equal.

Neither OP nor the dog deserve a man who can't exert the most minimum effort

He says he is too tired after working all day but he doesn't think OP feels the same way. It doesn't seem like he loves OP enough to worry about her and share responsibilities with her.

He doesn't deserve OP or his dog. He is too lazy to take care of either and even has the audacity of calling OP a b*tch for putting a stop to his irresponsibility.

Chelsi