Woman Seeks Advice Online As She's Tired Of Being Her Husband's Emotional Support System At Any Slightest Insecure Thought

"Would couples counselling be a good way to try and get around that?"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• November 5, 2023

In order for a relationship to strengthen over time, it is critical to support your spouse and maintain an emotional connection with them. However, there are situations where a partner's emotional requirements could be too much to handle, which could ultimately be bad for the relationship.

A partner who is entirely reliant on you for emotional support would require your approval nearly every minute of the day, in every circumstance, decision, and moment. They become nervous as soon as you leave them and fear being alone themselves.

They can also put off making decisions until you give your approval. Fundamentally, emotionally dependent people may struggle to control their emotions; as a result, they may turn to others for comfort or to make decisions on their behalf.

They frequently rely on other people to make them happy, which could be harmful to their relationship. So, a companion who is emotionally dependent can be draining and burdensome.

They can need assurance and care all the time and one person may find this to be too much to manage. This is the situation the OP of today's story found herself in.

It started when COVID hit her husband really hard as a teacher and she feels like there was a new dynamic that has shifted between them since then. He comes to the OP constantly for support for every little insecure thought that pops into his head and it’s killing OP's opinion of him.

And here's the headline as dropped by the original poster

OP's husband has done it for the last 10 years, he will make it through these two weeks before summer

Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say regarding the story

I'm dealing with some other things, can't talk more right now

I am running errands and will have my phone off now

The OP should lay down her law and stand by it

Chasing the OP around while she ignores him is pretty extreme

Any more than that and he should be speaking to a counselor

It sounds like OP's husband needs to find a therapist just to have someone to talk to

A lot was dropped on their backs to figure it out

From a professor who was nearly wipes out by Covid

That could be good if the OP communicates that she's coming back

From a Redditor who worked at a hospital that already cut major corners when it came to patient safety

Being independent is crucial in any kind of relationship. This is particularly valid in the context of love partnerships, so establishing boundaries early on is crucial if you find yourself in a relationship with an emotionally dependent partner.

Redditors said that someone needs to explain certain things to the OP's husband, so counseling was suggested. Leave your thoughts about this story in the comments section below.

Maryjane