Wife Finds Out Her Husband Offered His Sister A Huge Amount From Their Savings Without Letting Her Know, Gets Upset And Feels Betrayed

"I am horrified he would consider gifting it away and not even telling me"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• October 11, 2023

Imagine learning that your partner intended to donate a sizable portion of your joint savings without even consulting you first! That is precisely what happened to one woman who happened to come across her husband's phone and read his text messages.

Without even consulting his wife, the husband had casually offered to give his sister $10,000 as a down payment for her NYC apartment. The wife now feels betrayed and starts to have second thoughts about her trust in her spouse.

Want to explore more of the story and know how everything transpired afterwards? Well, let's dig into the story proper.

So the original poster of today's story feels violated and doubts her trust in her husband after learning of his hidden plan to give $10,000 of their joint money to his sister without even telling her. The husband thought his wife wouldn't notice or care about the "details," so he had casually given the cash for a down payment on an apartment in New York City.

The wife is now thinking about getting her own bank account and questioning how much she still trusts her spouse, that if there's any trust still remaining. Well, I believe it's best you read the full story in the OP's own words below as that will help you decide your verdict on the matter.

The OP kicks off her story

The OP decided to see what the big discussion is about

The OP and her husband has been together for ten years

She and her husband both earn good salaries each

They are doing good financially but still need to build up more

OP's sister-in-law is trying to buy a one bedroom apartment

OP's husband manages a chunk of the finance as she trusts him completely

The OP confronted and asked when he planned to tell her

"No that's a lot of money. I should have told you about it."

The OP and her husband decided not to give the money

The OP actually trusted him to never, ever take advantage of her ignorance

The OP now wants to open her own bank account

The OP grew up poor so she knows that is a huge amount of money

Trust is essential to healthy relationships and also has a significant impact on your level of happiness. You can feel safe, protected, and supported if you can trust your spouse.

Marriage is a lifetime commitment, so it's crucial to know the person you're tying the knot with is someone you can confide your fears, thoughts, and feelings in. It is quite challenging to have a loss of trust or a breakdown of trust in a relationship.

Additionally, it harms a relationship as a whole. Let's see what the internet has to say about this.

It's a good thing he relented

He figured I wouldn't notice

This Redditor can't wrap their head around it

Getting something set up

Wanting the issue to go away

Where is it going?

The fact that he hid it is concerning

This Redditor would be mad too

This Redditor doesn't believe anyone is an AH here

For the same reasons that trust is vital to you, your partner needs to feel secure, content, and supported in your relationship. As the sacrament of marriage is about forging a lifelong bond, it is crucial that you and your spouse have mutual trust in order to support one another through every stage of the relationship.

After a trust violation, partners may become irate, wary, and vigilant of one another. This is what OP's marriage has come but we hope they patch things up soon.

Maryjane