Younger Brother Pretends His Sister Is Marrying Ghost After Receiving Flirty, Inappropriate Messages From Groom
After receiving unwanted drunken flirty messages from his future brother-in-law, a 23-year-old is pretending he doesn't exist. OP's BIL texted him one night about how much he missed him.
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OP tried to give him the benefit of the doubt. He asked his BIL if he didn't mean for his behavior to come across inappropriately.
Instead of taking the out OP offered, his BIL doubled down and said maybe he did miss him inappropriately. He added how much he loved OP's hair and how nice he smelled.
His BIL's advances and comments about his body made OP uncomfortable. OP got another text the following morning from his BIL.
He apologized for his late-night messages. He claimed that he was drunk, which didn't surprise OP because his older sister's boyfriend had a known drinking problem.
OP didn't buy that the messages were accidental. He was just at his sister's and her boyfriend's place for a visit three days before he sent those inappropriate messages.
OP's sister was heartbroken when he told her about her boyfriend's texts. She thought her relationship was perfect that month.
What was even more jarring was when they confirmed that she was in the next room when her boyfriend sent those texts to OP. She and OP agreed that while they didn't consider the texts as infidelity, they were still suspicious and weird.
His sister said she wouldn't let her boyfriend know that she knew about the texts. She planned to mentally distance herself from the relationship and save enough money to move out.
The next day, she changed her mind. She talked to her boyfriend. She was convinced that his messages to OP were not anything but a drunken mistake. She told OP she would "have her eyes open but her heart protected."
That annoyed OP. He questioned his sister if she loved this guy or if she was afraid to be alone. She said she loved him and was not willing to dump a 5-year relationship over some drunk messages.
OP's relationship with his sister was chilly after that. The couple announced their engagement recently. OP said he would go but pretend his BIL doesn't exist.
His sister said OP was overreacting and shouldn't take those messages so seriously. OP reassured his sister that he would attend the wedding to support her but would pretend she was marrying a ghost.
Those disgusting messages were sent to OP just a year ago. His sister can't just sweep her future husband's awful behavior under the rug and expect OP to do the same.
Why shouldn't OP be offended? Those messages that inappropriately described his body were sent to him by his older sister's future husband.
OP has done what he could for his sister. It's not up to him to make his sister's decision.
The family is so determined to make OP the bad guy. It's all so alarming.
The fact that OP is asexual changes nothing. What his BIL did is still unacceptable.
Is OP sure he wants these people in his life?
Do their parents know what OP's BIL said to and about him?
Oh, I guess they all belong together. Keep those attributes contained.
OP said he was still contemplating if he should go to the wedding. He's leaning towards going to show his support for his sister.
If he said those things to his wife's much younger brother, who else does he talk to during his downtime?
There were no further updates in OP's profile. Although, based on most of his comments, Operation Ghost is still the top choice.
It wouldn't be easy for OP to forgive or forget what his BIL said to him no matter how many years pass. OP needs to focus on reassuring his sister that she can always go to him if and when her marriage goes sideways.