Redditor Declines Sister's Selfish Demand To Disinvite His Girlfriend From Christmas Dinner, Saying He Won't Come If She's Not Allowed To Attend

"My sister doesn't want my gf to be at this dinner."

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• November 20, 2023

Meeting a partner's parents for the first time is a great milestone in a couple's life, but meeting their families with each other is even greater. So naturally, everyone wants the meeting to be perfect and go smoothly.

But people can exaggerate in wanting everything to be perfect. So, this story is about potential exaggeration, and Redditor asked for unbiased advice to see who is in the right here.

The OP explained he and his girlfriend had initially planned their holiday schedule, assigning Thanksgiving to her family and Christmas to his. However, this arrangement became complicated when his younger sister and her boyfriend decided to use the Christmas break for a significant family introduction event.

The sister intends to have her boyfriend's family visit their parents' home for a special dinner, but she expressly wishes for the OP's girlfriend not to be present. This exclusion puts the OP in a difficult position.

He believes it would be awkward and doesn't want to ask his girlfriend to leave during this family dinner. The OP thinks that his girlfriend's presence at the dinner wouldn't overshadow the event's intended purpose.

Faced with this dilemma, the OP is considering taking a firm stand. He believes his girlfriend should be included in the family event, as her exclusion seems unnecessary and potentially hurtful.

The OP plans to attend the dinner only if his girlfriend is invited. However, this decision makes him question whether his insistence on this matter makes him unreasonable or inconsiderate towards his sister's wishes.

So, he asks for opinions on whether his perspective is justified or if he is overreacting.

Here is the OP's dilemma:

The OP explained his girlfriend was supposed to spend Christmas at his home:

But his sister also has plans for Christmas:

OP's sister doesn't want his girlfriend to be present during her planned dinner:

OP believes his girlfriend's exclusion is unnecessary:

Therefore, he asks for advice:

A Redditor said their parents should decide as it's their house

The OP explained:

He should tell his sister that he has already committed to having his girlfriend stay with him during that period

OP's sister is nervous about the dinner and wants to feel in control

"Your sister does not get to dictate who and who isn’t invited to a dinner your parents are hosting."

A Reddit user was curious:

OP explained:

"You aren't just standing up for your girlfriend, you are standing up for yourself"

Redditors told the OP that his sister doesn't get to decide who will attend the dinner since it's their parent's house, so parents should decide. Some Redditors also expressed their concerns that the OP's relationship might be too short for such kind of events, but more of them said that the length of the relationship does not determine its quality and feelings.

Therefore, the OP was not in the wrong for standing firm in their previous agreement, but Redditors said he also needed to talk with his parents regarding the issue.

Filip