Marital Bickering Leaves Wife Shocked As Husband Revealed His Manipulative Plans Of Getting Her To Leave Him, Redditors React

"If he's unhappy why can't he leave the relationship?"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• January 28, 2024

One of the main causes of couples' difficulty settling marital disagreements is blame shifting. Everybody has done it at some point but it doesn't imply we ought to.

This is because blaming someone is never the solution to a problem. Whenever someone accepts responsibility, the solution is always found, regardless of the issue.

Despite the fact that neither spouse claims to be perfect, they are adamant that the other is to blame for their marital issues. Everyone will own their mistakes, but they always measure their own transgressions against those of their spouse, with the balance always going in their favor.

When there is disagreement, husbands and wives fall into the same trap that all other relationships do. We grow preoccupied with assigning blame, losing sight of what really matters.

Marriage is a gift, and when all goes well, we get to enjoy the benefits that marriage has to offer. However, when a marital issue arises, we must let go of our desires and concentrate on our abilities to solve it.

OP's husband didn't want to take the blame for a failed marriage, so he decided to do things that would make his wife leave him, but she never did. The OP and her husband have been married for nine years and have a handful of kids together.

One day, they were bickering, and he badmouthed the OP while telling her that he'd been trying to get her to break up with him for years. Read the entire story in the OP's own words as you scroll down below.

And here's the headline of the story

OP's husband constantly calls her names and honestly doesn't treat her the best

The Reddit post got hundreds of comments and we've gathered some of the most upvoted ones for you to check out below

This Redditor has grown up but this guy seems to still be very immature

He wants the situation be that the OP left him so the divorce is her choice

OP should go ahead and talk to a lawyer as soon as possible

It's a twisted way to excuse his behaviour and kind of victim blame

There might be other things the OP's husband isn't telling her

It's fine to have different perspective on things but the situation of things is messed up

It'll be more upsetting for the kids if they have to move into a new place

OP should stop trying to figure out why her husband is doing what he's doing

This Redditor has a similar story to share and it's quite rattling

All too frequently, spouses become fixated on being righteous combatants and assigning blame to one another when they ought to acknowledge that it doesn't matter who is at fault but what is at fault. People like the OP's husband will eventually make the divorce or breakup happen.

Redditors say that he just wants to manipulate it to make the OP do as he wants which gets him off of any blame.

Maryjane