OP's sister and her wife recently welcomed their first baby, a girl, it's the first granddaughter in her wife's family, and they're thrilled since both of her sisters have boys.
When OP and her daughter visited the hospital to see the newborn, SIL's family was there, they barely spoke to OP's daughter, instead, they showered compliments on the baby.
OP's daughter felt ignored by her aunt, but her aunt's wife stepped in to encourage her to be a great cousin, but attention quickly waned.
OP left because she felt uncomfortable and explained to her sister it was because her daughter felt ignored.
OP confronted her sister-in-law about her family's favoritism and beauty comparisons, but she accused OP of starting drama, and OP's sister didn't intervene.
OP is torn between apologizing for possibly overreacting and standing her ground against feeling excluded.
Expecting OP's daughter to receive attention during the visiting newborn is entitled.
They were complimenting the baby, not comparing OP's child's looks, she caused unnecessary drama.
OP is in the wrong for causing unnecessary drama.
OP sounds jealous and throws tantrums like a toddler sibling when they have to share attention with a new baby.
OP shouldn't encourage her child to feel like the center of attention all the time.
OP's parenting should include teaching her child not to expect attention in every situation.
OP is the as*hole for making it all about her daughter during everyone's first time meeting the new baby girl.
It's important to understand everyone's feelings. When people visit a new baby, they're usually excited and might not realize if they're not paying attention to older kids.
The compliments about the baby were probably just about how cute she was, not comparing her to OP's daughter. It's normal for parents to want their kids to feel special, but it's also important for kids to learn that they won't always be the center of attention.
Teaching them about sharing and understanding others' feelings is part of being a good parent. In short, while OP's feelings are understandable, the situation might have been handled better with a calm conversation.
It's important for everyone, including kids, to learn how to share attention and understand that they won't always be the focus.