Man Steals Younger Brother's Engagement Ring To Propose To His GF, Now Forced To Buy New One

"It's surreal that he's the one I'm fighting"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• May 17, 2024

It has long been customary for many generations to propose to a loved one with an engagement ring, whether it be a plain band, diamond, or gemstone. Because of this, a large portion of the population is ignorant of the true significance of engagement rings.

OP's brother must be among the ignorant ones, or else he wouldn't have done what he did. The OP has been planning to engage his GF for four years, and he picked up the ring a couple of weeks ago.

The one the OP got was on sale, so he managed to get it at a surprisingly low price. He told his elder brother about his plans while showing him the ring.

He informed the OP that he was also proposing to his girlfriend. Then he asked if he could "borrow" OP's ring to propose to his girlfriend and that he would still return it.

His reasoning was that he didn't want to spend too much money right away on a ring just in case his girlfriend didn't say yes to his proposal. The OP refused his request, only to discover later on that his brother stole the ring and proposed to his girlfriend.

The fiancée sent a picture of herself wearing the ring to OP's family group chat, and he was pissed. Read the full story below in the OP's own words to find out what happens next. 

The headline

OP's brother informed him that he was proposing to his girlfriend

The OP got distracted at work and didn't notice it was gone

She wouldn't like to learn her engagement ring had been stolen from the OP

The only other person who knows about this is their mom, who is divided about the issue

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

I forced my brother to buy me a new engagement ring by threatening to tell his fiancée he'd stolen mine. There were better ways I could have dealt with this, and I had no proof he wouldn't give the original one back to me.

The Reddit post got thousands of comments and here are some of the most upvoted ones

He never intended to return the ring

It'll be much worse if it's later

OP's brother is missing the point entirely

OP's mom is a low key AH here

OP's brother had never done something like this before

The OP may want to consider low or no contact after this

OP's ring was stolen by his brother so it's definitely not OP's response or words that are endangering the brother's relationship; it was a decision he made. Since he also made the decision that stealing the ring was more important than having a healthy relationship with the OP, it's entirely reasonable if the OP never puts his trust in him again.

In the end, the OP was declared not the AH and that's a wrap.

Maryjane