Man Refuses To Let His Wife And Her Family Savor The Joy Of Their Daughter Eating Her First Birthday Cake Without Him Being There, Redditors React

"I feel that my husband is being unreasonable"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• October 26, 2023

Normally, people would extend a hearty congratulations to anyone whose child turned one. It is a significant milestone that should be celebrated for both you and the kid.

Cakes designed just for your baby to enjoy on their first birthday are known as smash cakes. It is common knowledge that a year-old child lacks basic life skills, such as table etiquette.

Because of this, they will probably use their fingers to eat the cake or even "smash" their face into it when you place it in front of them. In order to share the occasion on social media, the parents, caretakers, or photographers will photograph it when it happens.

In addition to being cute and humorous, smash cakes are the ideal way to cap off a first birthday. This is what the OP had in mind for her daughter's first birthday.

OP's husband will be out of town during their daughter's birthday. Her husband's family is planning to come to see them when he returns to have a birthday party for their daughter.

OP had plans to see her family while her MIL was visiting, but she wasn't okay with that arrangement. OP's husband has now told her that he doesn't want her to celebrate their daughter's first birthday.

This means that she couldn't get their daughter a cake or cupcake. His reason was that he now wanted to see her eat the cake or cupcake for the first time, and the OP was dumbfounded.

Read the entire story for yourself below.

The OP writes

OP's mom invited her to fly down for a few days for her daughter's birthday

OP's husband stated that he now wanted to be there when their daughter had her cupcake

And the comments from other Redditors roll in...

OP's in-laws sound like hard work

This Redditor suggests for the playing field to be leveled

MIL has nothing to do with it

The OP later added an edit saying:

I am aware that my daughter does not know her actual birthday, but I was always planning to have a cake/cupcake with my daughter on her birthday regardless of my husband’s travel plans. I did want to mark the occasion and do something special, just a cupcake at least.

He was fine with this until my mil told me to tell him about my new plan to see my family. Having a cupcake means a lot to me and I have told him that. His trip is work related and can not be changed.

The comments continue to roll in...

It will be fair if it's just them and the baby

Making him understand that they have their own lives

The real problem might not be the cupcake

The OP can reveal what she knows

Some Redditors say that the OP should make sure she does the cake thing before her husband leaves, but only if the three of them are the ones present. In this way, the parents are present as their child eats their first cake or cupcake.

The OP can point out that her mother won't be present either if he objects to that and tries to insist on MIL being there. Establishing limits for both she and her spouse's parents is beneficial to a fulfilling partnership.

Maryjane