Redditor Wears A Three Piece Suit To A "No Dress Code" Wedding, Gets Accused Of Dressing Nicer Than The Couple Getting Married

"She's family doesn't give her the right to blame a miscommunication on me"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• June 25, 2023

Have you ever gotten a wedding invitation and had no idea what the dress code was for wedding guests? It can be difficult to understand the wording when "black tie optional" and "semi-formal" are used together.

The most typical wedding dress code is formal attire, although many couples would prefer for their guests to arrive in black-tie attire. Although formal clothes may be the standard for many couples, a wedding invitation may specify any number of additional dress restrictions.

For example, semi-formal and casual dress are also common at weddings, but they are less clear-cut than, say, black-tie, and it can be challenging for attendees to decide on the level of formality if they are unfamiliar with each appearance. The OP got invited to her brother's wedding, and it stated that there was no dress code.

The OP thought they put that there since the event was at a lake, so she wore a three-piece suit to the occasion. When the OP showed up, she noticed everyone was dressed way more casually than she was.

After the wedding, she got a call from her sister-in-law asking why she dressed like a pimp. She said the OP upstaged her and her brother, and she stuck out like a sore thumb in the photos.

This led to an argument, and the OP had to block her.

The headline

When the OP showed up, she noticed everyone was dressed way more casually than she was

OP's SIL was going on about how that implicitly meant not formal

The Reddit post generated thousands of comments and we've gathered up a bunch of them for you to read through below

That's a simple unimportant mistake

It is their own fault

This Redditor wants to see the suit

It's bad to dress out the couple getting married

She kinda deserved it for not laying emphasis

It's wrong for her to blame the OP for the miscommunication

Did the OP ask for clarification before that day?

She's supposed to be happy she's getting married

This Redditor needs extra info before deciding

The OP has to benn pretty dense not to catch it

It's better to be the better dressed person

The OP is by no means a big AH

The OP could render an apology too

Another Redditor who wants to see the suit

It's common that no dress code means casual

OP's SIL is the AH for blowing up at her

The OP could have dressed down some

OP's SIL shouldn't have called her a retard

The invitation did say that everyone should wear what is comfortable for them, which implies it's non-formal. The SIL sounds a bit thick, though, because if this was a big deal to her, she should have simply written 'dress code: casual,' and then there will be no room for misinterpretation.

This is a sloppy mistake to make on a wedding invitation, and the OP was declared not the AH.

Maryjane