Man Goes Ballistic And Accuses Fiancée Of Being ‘Wasteful’ For Attempting To Buy New Office Chair To Ease Her Back Pain

“My fiancé woke me up to tell me that I was stupid to even consider buying a new chair when I already have one.”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• May 15, 2024

Imagine you're sitting at your desk, trying to be productive, but your chair feels like a medieval torture device. Every movement is an agonizing mix of creaks and cracks, and your back and hips are already staging a protest—a painful one. 

Such was the daily struggle of our dear narrator (Original Poster). Her $600 disability check hit next month, and after paying for her kids' essentials and personal bills, she was determined to invest in some comfort—a befitting office chair. 

Not a luxury yacht or a golden throne, mind you, just a humble seat fit for a human being. However, the financial watchdog appeared in the form of her fiancé. 

In a pre-dawn wake-up call OP definitely didn’t ask for, he declared war by listing out her past ‘frivolous’ expenditures: a backpack (her portable library), a gaming console (her weekly escape), and a cheap desk that broke within a year (it served its purpose while it lasted).

His point? She already had a chair; why ‘waste money’ on another?

OP was frustrated. She called him out for dishing unsolicited advice like she wasn’t capable of spending her own money wisely—just like her sister always did. Did he not see how much pain she was in each morning courtesy of the so-called chair?

She’d already budgeted meticulously and the chair fit snugly within her financial plans—yet, the debate spiraled. He finally stormed out in a huff after dismissing OP’s right to be upset.

Was she wrong for getting annoyed by his early-morning finance lecture? 

The story in detail

A bit of background

OP’s fiancé is opposed to her buying a new chair

OP got upset and gave her fiancé a piece of her mind

OP has insisted on going ahead with her plans

We gathered some reactions from the Reddit community:

“It's crucial to address these issues and establish boundaries to maintain a healthy and respectful relationship.”

“if he is bankrolling all of your living expenses, he has a say.”

This Redditor definitely knows the consequence of continuously using a bad chair

“If most of the people in your life are treating you like your irresponsible then maybe you are.”

“NTA. Your mother crossed a serious line and now she needs to face the consequences.”

“If you need a new chair, get a new chair. Sell your old chair, set it on fire, whatever. It's your money.”

“NTA. The chair hurts, get rid of it and get a comfortable one.”

“NTA you have a physical need for a better chair, and it will improve your quality of life.”

“NTA AT ALL!!! Your fiance is controlling. Think how much worse it will get if you get married.”

A chair may seem trivial until it's the difference between functionality and agony. To Redditors, OP was NTA for simply wanting comfort—one that fits right into her budget too.

However, they were more concerned that committing to a lifelong partnership with someone who flew off the rails over a new chair was a recipe for disaster. 

The consensus? Proceed with caution.

Do you agree with this verdict? Let’s get your thoughts in the comments.

Jesse