Husband Objects To Wife Attending Sister's Wedding After His Infidelity Costs Him An Invite
When it comes to celebrations, especially significant ones like weddings, the expectation often revolves around the whole family participating in the joyous occasion. However, a perplexing scenario arises when a family member finds himself without an invitation to such an event.
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OP's (34m) wife (35f) received an invitation to her eldest sister's wedding. The invitation stated that she and their three children were invited with no mention of OP, such as "4 seats have been reserved in honor of wife, child, child, and child."
OP felt insulted and expected their wife to agree that this was rude. However, after she spoke to her mother to clarify whether OP was truly not invited, she expressed her intention to attend the wedding.
OP voiced his concerns, stating that it wouldn't be fair for her to go without him and that he didn't consent to their children attending without their father. In response, she argued that OP was being unreasonable, as her nieces and nephews would be at the wedding, making it a significant family event.
OP's perspective was that if the event was so important that the whole family should attend, then he should have been invited as well. Otherwise, if he wasn't invited, it couldn't be that important, and his wife shouldn't go. OP sought opinions on whether he or his wife was in the wrong.
Subsequently, OP acknowledged their misunderstanding and expressed their willingness to let their children attend the wedding.
OP's wife got invited to her sister's wedding, but OP wasn't included in the guest list.
OP thinks he should receive an invitation
Here's why he's not invited
OP should be faithful and honor his marriage
OP is in the wrong for cheating
OP's relationship with his in-laws is already strained, and blocking his wife and kids from seeing them is selfish
OP was wrong to tell his wife she and the kids can't attend and for the past infidelity.
OP is in the wrong for cheating on his wife and exploiting
OP cheated on his wife multiple times, which caused issues within his marriage and with her family.
They have a valid reason for not inviting someone who doesn't respect their own commitments.
OP's wife may have forgiven his past infidelity, but that doesn't mean her family has to accept him
OP treated her poorly in the past, so it's understandable that her family doesn't like him
OP omitted the fact that they're not inviting him because of his past infidelity
There are some deep problems here, mostly because of past cheating and how the husband had his wife working for him unofficially. The wife's family doesn't like him because of this.
It's his responsibility to fix things because he caused the problems. While it might feel unfair not to be invited to family events, the key is for him to work on himself and make things right. It's a tough situation, but it's possible to mend things if he genuinely changes and seeks forgiveness.