Groom Pressures His Bride To Wear Red Wedding Gown Because White Gowns Are Reserved For Brides Who Remain "Pure" Before Marriage

"He stated that me wearing white would be deceiving all of the guests and that it is different for guys."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• April 7, 2024

A wedding was called off when the groom disagreed with his bride wearing a white gown on their big day. He wanted her to wear a red wedding gown to reflect her "impurity."

OP was surprised by her fiancé's "request" as he had not been actively involved in planning their wedding. Ryan prefaced his request by saying he had been talking to his coworkers, and he was convinced that OP shouldn't wear a white wedding dress.

Since Ryan was artistic, OP thought her fiancé was worried about how their wedding photos would turn out. OP wanted to wear a traditional white gown and told Ryan she was unwilling to change her mind.

OP saw how annoyed Ryan was, but he let the issue go. He failed to keep his temper in check when OP picked and paid for her white wedding dress a few weeks later.

Ryan asked to see the dress, but OP declined because she wanted her dress to surprise him at their wedding. He asked OP to share the dress's color and blew up when she confirmed she bought a white gown.

OP was confused about why Ryan was so upset about the color of her wedding gown and asked him what color he thought she should wear. Ryan said OP should wear a red gown because white wedding gowns were for brides who remained "pure" before marriage.

This was not the first time that Ryan judged OP's past. OP had one boyfriend before she and Ryan dated in their early 20s.

They almost stopped dating because of how insecure Ryan was about OP's first and only high school relationship.

Ryan told his mom about the gown issue and thought she would side with him. They gathered in their living room where his mom told Ryan to also wear red because he was no longer a virgin.

Ryan promptly burst into tears but insisted on OP wearing a red gown. The whole incident made OP doubt if she even wants to marry Ryan.

Redditors advised OP to leave this red flag of a man. You can't negotiate the misogyny out of this person.

Would OP want any hypothetical future daughters she would have to be parented by Ryan?

He would use OP's one ex-boyfriend against her for the rest of their lives if she marries this man.

Ryan's mom calling him out on his crap proves that parents aren't always the problem.

What color is the parachute though?

OP happily shared in an update that she didn't marry Ryan. The incident brought to light all of Ryan's little lies. OP realized she didn't trust her fiancé.

OP didn't even believe Ryan's preface about the red dress. She thinks he got sucked into misogynistic forums that amplified the biases he already had against women.

In peak misogynistic fashion, Ryan, naturally, badmouthed OP online after their breakup. He stopped when OP ignored all of his posts. He eventually got engaged to a religious woman.

OP moved out of state for work and hoped she didn't have to interact with her ex-fiancé again.

Redditors who followed OP's story rejoiced at her update. They reassured her that she made the right decision not to marry Ryan.

They said he was a deeply unhappy man who would never be happy until he broke his partner down. OP will thrive without that big red flag to drag her down.

Chelsi