Redditor Arranges And Funds Holiday For Friend To Visit Her, Gets Berated By Friend's Unknown Boyfriend For Excluding Him

"I got a call from her boyfriend who said it was not fair just inviting her over without him."

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• February 10, 2024

Each person has the right to have their set boundaries respected by others. If everyone understood that, people probably wouldn't come into disagreements so much because of their opposite opinions.

But since that is not the case, different perspectives can make such a mess and even destroy the perfect moments and delight. That happened in a Redditor's story also, so she asked for some unbiased opinions.

The OP, a 30-year-old female, has a best friend named Anna, who is 29. Their friendship spans nearly 25 years.

Despite living in different countries for the last decade and a 7-8 year separation, their friendship remained strong, and they kept their daily communication and mutual support. Anna, who has never traveled abroad, was experiencing difficulties in her relationship with her boyfriend, Alex, and facing challenges at work.

Needing a break, she was fortunate to have her holiday allowance scheduled for August by her employer. The OP invited Anna to visit her and offered to financially help.

This plan was initially discussed the previous summer, and upon Anna's visa approval, the OP arranged the trip. The OP bought her flight tickets, booked hotels across various cities, concert tickets, and other surprises to uplift her.

However, the excitement was damaged when Alex contacted the OP, criticizing his exclusion from the invitation. The OP explained to Alex that the trip was intended as a 'girls' holiday,' and since they had no prior acquaintance, it did not make sense to invite him.

The OP also clarified that any financial support was exclusively for Anna due to their longstanding friendship, implying that Alex would need to finance his own trip if he wished to join. Alex labeled the OP as unfair and toxic in subsequent online posts.

But Anna reassured the OP not to be troubled by the situation, confirming her decision to proceed with the trip as a much-needed break.

Here is the OP's dilemma:

The OP hasn't seen her best friend for years, but they maintain their friendship:

The OP invited her friend to visit her and offered to help financially:

So, when Anna's visa got approved, the OP proceeded with their plan for summer:

But Anna's boyfriend contacted the OP and scolded her for not including him:

The boyfriend is a stranger to the OP

That should be Anna's break, perhaps she wants to go alone

Another Redditor agreed

He didn't have the right to call the OP

It's a girls' trip, he's not wanted

Anna should think about her boyfriend's character

Redditors told the OP she was not in the wrong for not inviting Anna's boyfriend. She wants to host her best friend, and the boyfriend is a stranger to her.

Let alone paying for his trip. If he wants to go on vacation, he needs to organize and pay for it himself.

He didn't even have the right to call the OP but berated her. If he has some doubts, he should talk with his girlfriend.

Filip