Woman In Two-Year Relationship Has Hit The Rocks With Her Boyfriend, Online Community Makes Her Realize He's Enslaving Her

It seems like she's being treated like a servant instead of a girlfriend.

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• Published in Interesting
• December 26, 2023

If you often get the vibe that your relationship isn't exactly on the fair side, there's a chance things might be a bit off in how you and your partner connect. Maybe they're asking for a bit too much; perhaps their expectations are a tad unrealistic, creating a kind of uneven power dynamic that's hard to overlook.

Sure, relationships are all about give and take, and it's totally normal for things not to be perfectly balanced all the time. However, it can become a bit wearying when one person consistently finds themselves in the role of the perpetual giver.

Today's story from the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) is an example of an unfair relationship. According to the original poster (OP), a 24-year-old female has experienced harsh treatment from her boyfriend for the past 8 months.

During this time, he felt neglected, and it turned out he was quite emotionally dependent. He's now seeking therapy for it, which is a positive step.

However, the toll on their relationship has been significant. The boyfriend demanded constant attention, leading the OP to invite him to her parent's house multiple times a week to prove her love.

The situation became more challenging when, during these visits, the OP felt obligated to cater to his every need, including cooking and providing constant care. Despite her efforts, he remained distant, eating in silence with closed eyes and often returning to sleep immediately after.

This left the OP feeling incredibly lonely. To make things worse, the boyfriend is jealous of her friends.

The OP is reconsidering her relationship with her boyfriend.

She apologizes at the end of her post for anything that's unclear as she's not an English speaker.

The OP admits that her not-so-perfect relationship has worsened the past 8 months.

She has been cooking and caring for him as she believes that she can show her love through these ways.

But the boyfriend, despite her efforts, isn't appreciative.

In the end, she decided to stop cooking for the guy. But she wonders if it makes her the a-hole for stopping.

We hope the OP realizes that the boyfriend is displaying parasitic behavior, which will not be healthy for her well-being in the long run.

The OP is being treated like a slave. The boyfriend even gets upset when she talks to her friends.

Marriage is out of the question. The guy is too immature for her to even consider marriage with him.

The boyfriend has no respect for the OP. She deserves better.

Keeping this relationship isn't healthy anymore.

The guy's a user. She needs to run away as soon as she can.

Marrying this guy seems like signing up for a life that's bound to be unhappy.

The OP needs to wake up and realize that this relationship isn't worth it. The guy terribly needs to fix himself and not burden someone because of his emotional independence.

As for the OP, she needs to break up with this guy before the relationship takes a toll on her well-being. Maybe the company of friends can help her after she moves on from her boyfriend.

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