Resentful Friend Declines To Pay For Friend's Bachelorette Weekend A Year After The Wedding She Wasn't Even Invited To

Her best friend rushed her marriage and had a small ceremony limited to her family. She didn't make the cut.

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• November 24, 2023

If my best friend of 15 years didn't invite me to her wedding, I would be a little hurt, too, like this Reddit user. OP and her best friend grew up dreaming about each other's weddings.

They promised to be involved in each other's special day. Their 15-year promise to each other went down the drain when OP's best friend got engaged too soon, at least in OP's opinion.

A month before she got engaged, OP's best friend was thinking about breaking things off with her boyfriend of one year. All her hesitations went out the window when her boyfriend popped the question.

They scheduled their wedding a month after they got engaged. The time constraint meant a small private ceremony limited to the bride and groom's immediate families.

This meant that OP was out of the picture. Getting snubbed from her best friend's wedding hurt OP's feelings, but she chose not to make an issue out of it.

They drifted apart after the wedding. A friend of her best friend reached out to OP a year after the wedding about throwing their friend a belated bachelorette weekend.

It would just be the three of them. The friend asked OP if she would be willing to split the cost between them to make the bachelorette weekend a gift for the bride.

OP didn't hesitate and immediately rejected the idea.

The plan sounded more like any other girl's weekend than a bachelorette party.

Besides, OP offered to throw her best friend a bachelorette party when she got engaged, but she declined.

To OP, her attempt was enough. Is OP a jerk for not going with the plan?

It does sound like that there is some resentment on OP's part because she wasn't invited to the wedding.

OP confirmed that she was salty about not getting a wedding invite. However, she was also concerned about the bachelorette weekend costing too much if shouldered by just two people.

It seems the bride and groom had a shotgun wedding for practical purposes.

If they haven't had much contact since the wedding, there is a definite gap in their friendship.

OP was right. She already offered to throw the bride a party before the wedding. Her best friend declined, so the offer is long gone.

To be fair to the friend and the bride, it wasn't an expectation. OP was just asked if she would be okay with it.

OP simply answering a question does not make her an a**hole. The friend isn't an a**hole for asking either.

No one is really an a**hole here. The bride isn't like your typical Reddit bridezilla.

The friend wanted to give their married friend a nice belated wedding present. Not everyone was on board and that shouldn't be an issue.

OP is not an a**hole for declining to participate and paying for a weekend she doesn't want to attend. She and her best friend aren't as close as they used to be.

Friendships that mellow out over the years are nothing new. There is no need to force OP into spending time and money with people she doesn't have a strong connection to.

Chelsi