Woman's Friend Doesn't Want To Cover Restaurant Bill, So She Goes Nuclear And Contacts Her BF For Money

"Her order cost $65 and she never sent me the money."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• June 5, 2024

Splitting the bill with friends after a meal is a routine part of socializing, but what happens when one friend forgets their wallet? This common scenario can sometimes lead to misunderstandings and strained relationships.

In a recent incident, OP, a female, found herself in such a situation when she went out for a girls' night with her friend. The aftermath of this seemingly simple dinner outing turned into a tale of miscommunication, frustration, and, ultimately, the end of a friendship.

That's what happened to OP and her friend. They went out for dinner, and when it was time to pay, OP said they should get separate bills.

But then, after the waitress left, her friend realized she had forgotten her wallet. OP suggested her friend pay her back later using Zelle, but her friend said, "Hey, you invited me, so you pay."

But that didn't sit right with OP because they usually split the bill when they go out. She reminded her friend of this, saying she should pay her part, which was $65.

But guess what? Her friend never sent the money. Even after a week and reminders from OP, her friend said she didn't have the money because of other bills.

She even got mad, calling OP "broke" and "desperate for money." OP tried talking to her friend's boyfriend to sort things out, but that just made her friend even angrier. Finally, her friend blocked OP on everything and said mean stuff about her being too worried about money.

OP and her friend ate at the restaurant for girl’s night, and after they ate, the waitress asked if they wanted a separate check or not, and OP said separately.

After the waitress left, the OP's friend said she had forgotten her wallet, so OP told her she could send her the money through Zelle.

She claimed that since OP invited her to girls' night, OP should pay her expenses. OP explained that typically, everyone covers their own costs due to high prices. Despite her $65 bill, she never paid OP back.

OP asked her to Zelle her the money a week later, but she said she didn't have it after paying bills and told her to stop acting "broke and desperate."

OP contacted her boyfriend to reach her, and he said he was at work but would tell her; later, she texted OP, saying not to contact her boyfriend again and stop asking for repayment.

OP shared her message with her boyfriend, hoping for compensation, but she responded by blocking OP from his phone, insulting her for being desperate for money, and then blocking her on all platforms.

While OP's "friend" is in the wrong, involving the boyfriend in settling the debt seems like unnecessary humiliation.

OP will thrive without her.

Sometimes, people like that sort themselves out.

OP is not wrong for wanting her money back, but it's selfish to bother her boyfriend, who may not even know about the debt.

$65 is a small price to pay to rid yourself of a toxic person.

She's stingy, and OP is better off without her as a friend.

While she might not repay OP, she could make her uncomfortable by involving her family.

It seems like she never intended to pay OP back; she likely hoped OP would forget or let it slide.

OP is wrong for reaching out to the boyfriend.

Contacting her significant other may feel tempting, but it's inappropriate.

It's common courtesy not to expect a friend to foot the bill when going out together, regardless of who initiated the plans.

OP's friend's entitlement is unacceptable.

Contacting her partner and sharing screenshots crossed a line.

Contacting her boyfriend about it crosses a line and comes off as borderline stalking.

OP shouldn't blame herself; her friend tends to stir up drama.

OP's friend messed up by not paying her back. But involving the boyfriend was probably not the best move. Still, based on this situation, OP would be fine without this friend.

Sometimes, people like that sort themselves out eventually. Even if it's only $65, it's worth cutting ties with someone who's so stingy and entitled.

Even though reaching out to the boyfriend wasn't the best idea, it's a good lesson in setting boundaries and not letting people treat you badly, even if they're supposed to be your friend.

Damjan