Am I the Jerk for Sticking to My Sons Exclusive Birthday Party List?

Are you the jerk for wanting to stick to your party guest list? The original poster shared a dilemma about planning a small Medieval Times party for their son's birthday and not wanting any last-minute additions.

They had carefully arranged tickets for their son's friends and cousins, but when the husband wanted to add his aunt, who was visiting, things got complicated. The OP felt it was already expensive and wanted the celebration to be intimate, but the husband insisted on including the aunt, leading to a heated dispute.

The top comments in the thread offer varying perspectives. Some users believe the OP is in the wrong for not considering the husband's wishes and the aunt's situation, while others sympathize with the desire for a small gathering and sticking to the original plan.

The discussion touches on issues of budgeting, family dynamics, and the importance of prioritizing the child's experience in the celebration. As the debate unfolds, users weigh in on the etiquette of guest lists, financial responsibilities, and the overall purpose of the birthday party.

With emotions running high and differing opinions clashing, the thread delves into the complexities of family relationships and event planning.

Original Post

AITA because I planned an intimate party for my son’s 6th bday to Medieval Times and don’t want any last minute guests? Backstory, I booked tickets for my son’s two best friends and 2 sibling/cousins to attend his bday this year instead of a big party like we normally throw.

My hubs comes to me 2 weeks before hand to ask if we can also include his auntie who is in from out of town for 10 days. She had met my son once, 3 years prior.

He said he didn’t want to leave her 67 y/o self alone bc it would be rude. Note, we are not hosting her, she is staying with hubby’s mom (Gam Gam) who is also going to the party.

I told him I didn’t want to bc (A) it’s really expensive already and (B) I just wanted it small and to be with only his favorite people. The woman would be alone for 4 hours in this scenario.

We can plan other events and opportunities the rest of the week with her but he flipped out. He keeps yelling about making it about her comfort and his moms comfort and not once mentions our son.

AITA?

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