Pregnant Woman Expects Help From Her Husband Who Has ADHD, But He Fails Her Time After Time

"I've dealt with it for years and I no longer want to hear it used as an excuse."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• March 13, 2023

ADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, is a neurological condition that affects millions of people around the world. It is characterized by difficulty focusing, impulsivity, and hyperactivity.

People with ADHD often struggle with organization, time management, and task completion. ADHD can lead to academic and social difficulties, as well as decreased self-esteem.

Treatment for ADHD can include medication, therapy, and lifestyle changes. However, people who live with them also struggle.

OP is married to a chronic procrastinator who has ADHD. Despite the condition, she believes it mostly comes down to things like chores. When it comes to leisure activities, he does not procrastinate, often rushing her in the process.

He will often say he will take care of things, such as doing the dishes or taking out the trash, but will forget to do so. Even if he is the one cooking dinner, he may forget and scramble to prevent a disaster.

OP is used to this behavior but recently became frustrated due to being pregnant and increasingly tired. She took it upon herself to deep clean the house, and her husband said he wanted to help but had an appointment.

He returned two and a half hours later and found the house sparkling clean. He mentioned he got caught up and forgot, to which OP responded that his forgetting was a "you problem," and she no longer wanted to hear it used as an excuse.

He walked off, telling her she was uncalled for. OP wants to know if she was in the wrong.

OP asks:

OP is married to a chronic procrastinator who has ADHD. Despite the condition, she believes it mostly comes down to things like chores. When it comes to leisure activities, he does not procrastinate

will often say he will take care of things, such as doing the dishes or taking out the trash, but will forget to do so.

OP is already used to these things and does not judge him

But now OP is pregnant and needs help

She took it upon herself to deep clean the house, and her husband said he wanted to help but had an appointment.

He returned two and a half hours later and found the house sparkling clean.

He walked off, telling her she was uncalled for. OP wants to know if she was in the wrong.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

This Redditor believes it was called for

There is a way..

"There are plenty of ways to help improve constantly "forgetting" things."

People have their routines scheduled

This Redditor does the same for their daughter

"Husband is not taking the steps to be an active participant in this partnership."

ADHD can be managed through individualized strategies and treatments. Treatment plans often include medications, psychotherapy, behavior modification, and lifestyle changes. Medications can help reduce symptoms such as impulsivity, hyperactivity, and inattention.

Psychotherapy can help people with ADHD learn how to manage their symptoms, develop better coping skills, and address any underlying emotional issues. Behavior modification techniques can help individuals learn how to control their behavior better.

Lastly, lifestyle changes can include getting enough sleep, maintaining a healthy diet, and finding ways to reduce stress. With the right combination of treatments, individuals with ADHD can successfully manage their symptoms and lead productive lives.

Damjan